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Ever since my wife and I lost our child my life hasn't been the same. I don't feel happy and I get bored with everything. I just want to sit at home nowadays and don't do anything. I feel like I'm a complete failure and completely failed in life. I feel like my health has deteriorated because of that. People have said that I've lost too much weight and that I look sick. I'm not the type that can tell someone my feelings face to face so I feel really lost because I want to tell people how I'm feeling. Everytime I go to tell my wife how I feel, I choke up and bottle it instead.

Today I contemplated suicide but couldn't go through with it because I'm afraid of people (especially my nieces and nephews) calling me a coward for taking my life.

Sorry if my post isn't making too much sense.
 
Get counseling. This is super important that you get to a professional ASAP. Also think about couples sessions with your wife.

So sorry to hear about your loss. You are entitled to feel the way you do. Just need to make sure the feelings are dealt with in a healthy way.
 
First post nails it. Can't imagine the pain you must have been going through, but counseling is absolutely the way to go. They will give the support and resources you need to cope, and really help you get back on your feet.

Sorry for your loss - just know that there are always people out there willing to help you, and people that care enough about you to want to see you get better.
 
Seek professional help. I've been there, although I never went that low. It may seem futile at first, but they'll help if you let them.
 
I don't know how much help I can offer, but when I was in a depressive state I found what helped the most was talking it out with someone who could listen, and keeping my mind on other things. I would work out more, I was almost always listening to music, and focused on studying more than I ever did previously. I used those things as distractions, and whenever it wasn't working, I'd call my mom to help me through my problems. I didn't have a particularly close relationship with either of my parents and it surprised me that she was the person who was able to help me the most. I also saw a doctor and received counseling for my problems, and that helped too.

I'm sorry for what happened to you and your wife. It is a terrible thing, and you shouldn't feel ashamed you're feeling this way. Don't be afraid to talk to someone, it doesn't need to be your wife. It could be a sibling, a friend, a parent.
 
I'm having SSRI medicine and counceling. It works. Just remember, SSRI medication kills your libido so you most likely won't want to have sex or get much enjoyment out of it.

I know this sounds ridiculously hard, but start by talking to your wife about your emotions. She most likely feels the same and would love to talk to you about it too.
 
You are entitled to feel the way you do but you I think you should talk with your with wife. Go to counseling together.
 
You need to seek help OP, it's for the best not only for you but for all the people around you and especially your wife.
 
Sorry to hear about what happened, but as people here are saying and they've said it already much better than I ever can - go seek someone that can help you.

I don't know how you feel, but don't try to make it easier with alcohol or any other thing that can be abused.

Even in the hardest times, there are people that are willing to help.
 
Seek help my friend and don't be ashamed about it. So many people go through it so don't feel alone.

Opening up to your wife or someone else you're really close to can also help.

You have a strong will and you can make it.
 
Sorry to hear of your loss man. But ending your life isn't going to solve the problem, its just going to void the thing all together. Get some professional help.
 
PJX said:
Ever since my wife and I lost our child my life hasn't been the same. I don't feel happy and I get bored with everything. I just want to sit at home nowadays and don't do anything. I feel like I'm a complete failure and completely failed in life. I feel like my health has deteriorated because of that. People have said that I've lost too much weight and that I look sick. I'm not the type that can tell someone my feelings face to face so I feel really lost because I want to tell people how I'm feeling. Everytime I go to tell my wife how I feel, I choke up and bottle it instead.

Today I contemplated suicide but couldn't go through with it because I'm afraid of people (especially my nieces and nephews) calling me a coward for taking my life.

Sorry if my post isn't making too much sense.
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That's the big red flag. Don't sit on this, seek help.
 
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Get counseling. This is super important that you get to a professional ASAP. Also think about couples sessions with your wife.

So sorry to hear about your loss. You are entitled to feel the way you do. Just need to make sure the feelings are dealt with in a healthy way.
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This is the best course of action, you need qualified help to improve your situation.
 
Just the simple fact that you've posted here on a forum like this - as anonymous as it may be - is significant of the fact that you do care, and you do want to be heard. There's plenty of established people who can and will help you, just take the time to seek it out and work through it. For your own sake and your wife's as well. It will get better and you absolutely can be happy again, be strong and work hard.
 
Very very sorry for your loss. Go seek professional help. Seriously, think about how devastated your wife would be to lose you too. Good luck, sir.
 
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