I'm fucking depressed
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ShinNL
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Good luck man. What helped me with these kind of problems in the past is reading about how your own mind is probably working:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kübler-Ross_model
Once I realized that, pretty much every difficulty in life was easily accepted so I could move on.
Perhaps this will help you in a way as well.
Best of luck. It may sound a bit cliché, but you'll come out stronger.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kübler-Ross_model
Once I realized that, pretty much every difficulty in life was easily accepted so I could move on.
Perhaps this will help you in a way as well.
Best of luck. It may sound a bit cliché, but you'll come out stronger.
Have you told her how you feel?
Telling her how you feel and hearing from the horses mouth whether or not she is actually interested in you has to be better than just letting some other guy move in because you are too afraid of a knock back.
I know her telling you she's not interested is not what you want to hear and your instincts tell you to softly softly piss around in the hope she makes the first move but sometimes you have to grab life by the balls. There's nothing worse than losing a gal to another guy just because you were too scared to say anything. Her telling you she's not interested will also give you the closure you need because you'll always be wondering what if otherwise and that's a lot worse in the long run than a kick back.
Telling her how you feel and hearing from the horses mouth whether or not she is actually interested in you has to be better than just letting some other guy move in because you are too afraid of a knock back.
I know her telling you she's not interested is not what you want to hear and your instincts tell you to softly softly piss around in the hope she makes the first move but sometimes you have to grab life by the balls. There's nothing worse than losing a gal to another guy just because you were too scared to say anything. Her telling you she's not interested will also give you the closure you need because you'll always be wondering what if otherwise and that's a lot worse in the long run than a kick back.
Rubbish King
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sucks to hear man, drop us a pm if you wanna vent or your feelin' lonely, always got time to talk to fellow gaffers
Canis lupus
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Well she was friendly she told you about it herself, but was she appearing still interested in you until yesterday? I think you should have made move long ago.
Callo Merlose
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You have to, for the sake of your sanity, find a way to get her jealous. You've made yourself too readily available to her. I'm not telling you this just as a female, but as a fucking doormat that's been in your situation before. You need a better head on your shoulders. Maybe suffer a little bit, but don't dwell and move the fuck on, quickly (make her jealous). Make your congratulations and "I'm so happy for you'se" sound trite and by-the-book. Basically, like empty complements.
no better way to make her jealous than new vagina...
if he play his cards right he can have old and new vagina for a while...
University counselor? Sounds like you're young, correct me if I'm wrong. Man, being young sucks...emotions are so strong. Anyway, in your shoes I would stop talking to this girl cold turkey. She'll probably try to contact you, keep your communications brief, though don't come off as totally icey. Over time she will lose interest, you'll stop being friends and you won't look like the bad guy ya know? Over time you will get over the loss and heartache and learn from it, grow as a person. Perhaps you can rekindle a friendship later on, but in the meantime, find other girls, go live, life is short. I only recommend doing this since it seems to hurt you so.
More Fun To Compute
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I empathise with the sadness and betrayal you feel since you learned that you no longer have exclusive breeding rights with this female.
Rocket Scientist
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I predict much happiness for you in the future, with someone other than this woman. You'll be fine bro. Good move on the counselor thing, you don't want your schoolwork to suffer because of this. Stay busy.
The bold and underlined above is wrong. Deal with it.
I've dated an ex's sister. I've dated an ex's best friend. Hell, I've had the best friend of my then current girlfriend make a very thinly veiled pass at me. If the girl is REALLY that into you she'll get it sorted with her friend.
If she's that in to you and you broke up with her friend two years ago there is NO WAY she's letting that stand in the way of her dating you.
Sounds to me like you're friend zoned to the extreme. She's at least nice enough and aware enough to recognize your interest and be polite about it, but that's all you are. This is probably partly a result of you being her "dick under glass" too, so you got that going for you. Give up any delusions that she reciprocates your feelings to the same degree and move on.
I'm an expert
Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
You're depressed because a chick you like doesn't like you back? Krist dude, the entire male population is in depression then. Seriously. There's a dating thread, there's even a depression thread, though I don't think you belong in there because it just sounds like you're a lovesick puppy. Get over it.
hot girls have got problems too!
akachan ningen
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having one-itis is like having a cold, just wait it out.
I'm an expert
Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Yeah! Like which modeling job to pick, or what piece of celery to eat half of! Amirite!!
I'm depressed because every single decision that I've made in my life, decisions that affect me, I have regretted. Every one, and I keep doing them daily. One of these days I'm just going to crack and I'm not looking forward to it yet I'm frozen in place staring at it like the headlights of a train inevitably approaching me because I can't fucking take control of my pathetic existence...
Thanks Tashbrooke, will drop a pm if I felt worse.
As I said in the OP, I told her I loved her long ago, but at that time she said she felt bad because I was her best friend's ex. Then I told her again yesterday, and asked if she had feelings for me. She somehow dodged the question by saying she now feels bad that I'm sad and if I had done something similar she would shocked. But she would be happy if I'm happy.
I don't think I can do that, basically playing with someone else's emotion and I'm almost not interested in anyone else except her.
I'm 22 btw, if anyone is concerned about my age.
As I said in the OP, I told her I loved her long ago, but at that time she said she felt bad because I was her best friend's ex. Then I told her again yesterday, and asked if she had feelings for me. She somehow dodged the question by saying she now feels bad that I'm sad and if I had done something similar she would shocked. But she would be happy if I'm happy.
I don't think I can do that, basically playing with someone else's emotion and I'm almost not interested in anyone else except her.
I'm 22 btw, if anyone is concerned about my age.
Messypandas
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sorry dude, you needed to make that move a long time ago
entremet
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I think your basing too much of your happiness on women. Do you have other friendships, interesting hobbies, are you working on improving yourself physically, mentally, and socially? Have you done anything adventurous of late?
It's normal to be down when someone you like rejects you, but there is more to life than just this one girls favor.
It's normal to be down when someone you like rejects you, but there is more to life than just this one girls favor.
Stop communicating with this girl for a while. One day you'll mature to the point that you can be friends and not give a fuck if she doesn't want to be with you. As someone so eloquently put "find a new vagina".
Gotta agree with this...
Corky, I know that feel bro.
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As I said I managed one break up just fine when I was 19 and much younger, but this situation is something else. It hurts so bad cause I love her so much.
I'm planning to move to Germany in April to continue my masters. She said she wanted to move there too once she graduated. And she was/is serious about it. Not sure what the hell should I do with my life from this point.
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As I said I managed one break up just fine when I was 19 and much younger, but this situation is something else. It hurts so bad cause I love her so much.
I'm planning to move to Germany in April to continue my masters. She said she wanted to move there too once she graduated. And she was/is serious about it. Not sure what the hell should I do with my life from this point.
I'm an expert
Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
You should stop being someone else's safety blanket and try..living your life?
"Oh you're moving to Germany?! I wanna go too! We can live together! Then you can make me hot cocoa and I can tell you about the guy who pounded my ass last night! We can talk about it for 2 hours! BFF!"
This is pretty funny to read. No offense.
You make it sound like your life is now over or something. It's not. You'll find someone else to fall in love with and life will go on.
Yes it's that simple.
ScreenSplitter
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Break that tie man. This world we live in is a big one, and is full of possibilities. She's choking those possibilities. Trust me, I spent half my high school life pining over some bitch. I missed out on the nuances of being a teenager, and I appreciate now how care-free my life really was, and how I didn't really have anything to worry about.
wondermega
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most guys who write/feel stuff like this are doomed, I say, doooooomed to end up with some girl who will be with them for the better part of their adult lives. So don't worry. It feels like hell shit now, and it will for a little while, but like they say "some day you will look back longingly on these days"
In the meantime, enjoy your 22-ness because some chick out there has got your number and perhaps neither of you know it at this moment, but she is gunning for you, and every day from this point forth you will inch ever closer to that day when your horrible, horrible freedom is revoked.. permanently
In the meantime, enjoy your 22-ness because some chick out there has got your number and perhaps neither of you know it at this moment, but she is gunning for you, and every day from this point forth you will inch ever closer to that day when your horrible, horrible freedom is revoked.. permanently
Tokubetsu
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This is a really hopeful and positive post. I like you. More Gaffers like you please.
MadraptorMan
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I'm also depressed.
Girls suck, love sucks.
Girls suck, love sucks.
She dodged the question because she didn't want to tell you she wasn't interested and hurt you.
You're going to have to deal with that. Your young and you'll soon forget about it when you are hanging out the back of something else.
wondermega
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Jill Sandwich
the turds of Optimus Prime
I guarantee you this time next year you won't give a crap about her. But you must go through a bit of bawling first.
Yeah.. Can't feel sorry for a 22 year old who got dumped.
Barely an adult, go out and meet new people it's not the end of the fucking world.
not_so_special
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sea is full of fishes
But it's also full of sharks so stay the fuck away from my fish.
But i am a gay shark so you really don't have to worry about my fish.
You're a dolphin
Dolphins are vicious animals.
thesoapster
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We've all been blinded. It's nothing new. Learn to accept reality, learn to forget - it's not too difficult at the stage you are at with her. It takes time and the willingness to accept that you need to move on. When you're not so blinded by just one person, you'll all of a sudden start finding new women who are awesome. We trick ourselves like this all the time.
Dolphin huh.. I love dolphins! SOLD!
ElectricBlanketFire
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Welp, now I'm depressed.
http://www.google.com/url?q=http://...yaDchA&usg=AFQjCNEFtw9Zdb9sXfJ-O-xZR8WNrQ19lA
(On phone so say if link doesn't work)
(On phone so say if link doesn't work)
not_so_special
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