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[jcorb]

Honestly, I genuinely wish I could meet a woman who also appreciates gaming. I feel like there’s still kind of a nasty stigma attached to the hobby, like you’re supposed to “compensate” but having other interests that are “cool” to make up for it.

Obviously there’s more to life than just games, but it’s something that means a lot to me at least, and I wonder sometimes if I could ever meet someone who also shares an interest in gaming at *some* level.

How would you even meet a potential partner? About the only game I even *occasionally* hear a woman talk is Call of Duty, and that’s not exactly the most conducive environment to developer a rapport (and jesus is that community toxic to those poor girls; no wonder we all get a horrible reputation).

 

[Northeastmonk]

They do exist. You have to be upfront about it otherwise you’ll be hiding it. That’s what I didn’t want. I didn’t want to hide my hobby or have to make an excuse to why I enjoyed gaming. I don’t want to spend hours watching TV or movies. I’d rather play games.

You have to keep searching and you’ll find one. My wife plays games. She’s been playing VR nonstop and she’s got AC Shadows preordered. She loved Ghost of Tsushima and Infamous Second Son. She knows there’s women out there who put men down about it. It’s stupid to put someone down over entertainment like video games.

My advice is get to know someone, don’t give up, and don’t quit playing because someone thinks less of you. There are a lot of women out there who love games just as much as you do. They might not follow threads or the latest breaking news, but they will enjoy an evening or two with a good video game.

 

[YCoCg]

I know plenty of women who play games and my wife is one of them.

 

[Mistake]

It is becoming more common, but I wouldn't focus on that. I think having similar interest in shows or things that involve going out is better. Like a balance between leisure and active life. If they don't mind watching you play a game, that's fine too.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

Unless they are closet gamers, never knew one female friend, sis in law, or coworker who has ever talked games, except during the Wii craze, when suddenly a bunch of them bought one.

 

[touchfuzzy]

I did date one gamer girl way back but didn’t really like it. Felt too much like “one of the guys”, you know?

Of course it was important to find someone that accepts me playing them. My wife could really care less about gaming herself but is totally fine with it as my hobby.

 

[El Muerto]

My wife plays The Sims and Zelda, i really dont consider her a gamer girl. I wouldnt want to marry someone who plays the same games as i do anyway. If you have the same hobbies then you will have nothing to talk about.

 

[Dioica]

I'm a woman who games and I would love even just a friend who would (for example) want to sit with me to watch the game awards, talk about the gaming podcasts I listen to, etc. But I've never met another woman gamer ever (except my brother's gf and she's a pretty casual gamer). Tbh I don't even know any male gamers who follow the industry like I do. One of my exes was a gamer but he mostly only played LoL. My current partner isn't interested in games at all but he sometimes plays for my benefit because he knows I love it.

It doesn't help that us gamers tend to be quite indoorsy so we're bad at meeting new people.

 

[Rentahamster]

How would you even meet a potential partner?

By putting yourself into situations where you'd meet like-minded individuals, and then being likable enough so that people want to develop a closer relationship with you, be it friendly or romantic.

Join gamer-adjacent social clubs that have meetups and do activities like DND, board games, chess, or even actual video gaming. In-person LAN parties or tournaments are a thing in some towns and cities. If there aren't any, try and start one.

Volunteer for organizations at events that dabble in nerd culture, such as anime conventions, tech expos, or medieval fairs.

Join dating apps and straight up put on your profile that gaming is one of your hobbies and you really wish you could find someone that can connect with you on that level.

Meet a non-gamer and convert her to gaming by slowly introducing her to casual-friendly games like The Sims and over time introduce her to more stuff and play co-op.

 

[dark_chris]

My sweetheart of ten years loves gaming with me or we have a method for single player games where we take turns and help each other. I was upfront about loving games and she was too. We do love co-op games or something like the Dark Pictures Anthology.
Sadly, nowadays it seems she developed motion sickness to games and can only play in small doses.

 

[Heimdall_Xtreme]

It's a horrible stigma, but it makes me angry that they criticize that hobby, and women are zombified with Facebook and Instagram garbage.

 

[NecrosaroIII]

Its not that important OP, but for what its worth, if you find a worthwhile partner, theyll take interest in your interests.

My wife never gamed before she dated me. Now she dabbles. But shes never gonna play FPSes or team shooters or things such as that

 

[ntropy]

this reminds me, an old ex of mine still has my 3DS

 

[Embearded]

I have a friend who wanted to meet a woman that likes heavy metal and going to concerts. He was able to meet one and start a relationship by joining related groups in meeting apps and going to the organised meetings.
I didn't even know those existed but it turns out you can find people with the same hobbies as you and meet them in person as the point of the app is to meet them and not just chat online.

 

[Hudo]

As long as she likes playing with my Joystick.

 

[Pegasus Actual]

You think that's what you want but it isn't. Look at all the terrible-at-games streamer girls and their simp boyfriends who toil away editing their garbage gameplay for maybe a few hundred thirsty losers on YouTube and weep.

 

[Cyberpunkd]

How would you even meet a potential partner?

Be hot.
Be rich.

She won’t care at all that you play videogames, she will probably be ecstatic you stay at home instead of getting wasted with your mates in a bar.

 

[hollowcupra]

They do exist but obviously you have to be around the proper places and get a bit lucky in having similar interests in general.

I met my current partner (she is a gamer) 6 years ago on a facebook playstation group and we 've been together almost since then. By gamer I mean actual gamer, platinuming From Games, playing RPG's and all the regular stuff that come's out.

We have two TVs in our living room and we play side by side. Either the same game where we look to platinum it together and discuss the story or the gameplay and the characters, or we each have a list of games we want to go through each month.

The thing though is that there is life beyond games, you have to do other stuff and not just sitting and playing because it will get boring, luckily we had same interests in travelling etc.

Our setup below, although we need to clean up a bit

 

[Dioica]

You think that's what you want but it isn't. Look at all the terrible-at-games streamer girls and their simp boyfriends who toil away editing their garbage gameplay for maybe a few hundred thirsty losers on YouTube and weep.

Those are streamer girls, not at all reflective of normal people.

I will admit though that I am not particularly skilled at games myself. I have played and loved Bloodborne and Demon's Souls, but my reflexes aren't fast enough to be good at games like Rogue Legacy and Binding of Isaac (I always somehow manage to dodge straight INTO the projectiles), though I still love both of those games.

 

[TastyPastry]

honestly i don't need a woman who plays games, just one who accepts that it's been my hobby for all my life and that it's not going to change

 

[Lambogenie]

Its not that important OP, but for what its worth, if you find a worthwhile partner, theyll take interest in your interests.

My wife never gamed before she dated me. Now she dabbles. But shes never gonna play FPSes or team shooters or things such as that

I think this is a far better way to try and date. Not only does it open your own doors, but potential to find and dabble in new things yourself.

As long as you guys don't berate each other over hobbies, you'll probably find other things to do together. I know a few couples that are very different in personality and interests, they have a strong relationship.

 

[M1chl]

Yes and life has never been better

 

[winjer]

For the most part, I've found women that openly say they hate videogames and would not date men who play.

 

[Boozeroony]

You could always find someone at the women-only speedrun meet-up.

 

[xrnzaaas]

From my experience, women don't like talk to about gaming even if it's their main hobby, maybe they're ashamed of it, who knows. I have a few female friends who are into games very much (and not the mobile / casual kind), but if someone asks them what they do in their spare time they talk about dancing or reading books instead. Or netflix, like that's not something to be ashamed of.

 

[Zathalus]

My wife is one. She grew up with a PlayStation, MGS, Crash, Final Fantasy, etc…

These days it is mostly RPGs, Horror games, and WoW for her.

 

[Dr.Morris79]

I never found one, but I'm 45. My wife absolutely hates anything about gaming. She's very.. old school.

I even asked her what she'd do with my 40+ year hoarded collection, 'Charity shop' she said

 

[Mr Reasonable]

Honestly, I genuinely wish I could meet a woman who also appreciates gaming.

This will be fairly consistent across men and women and all sorts of hobbies. There'll be women out there saying "I wish I could meet someone who liked [insert hobby hardly any men like and dominates 90% of their free time]. Why is it so tough!"

Really, I think if you have one hobby that completely dominates and you only care about finding someone who shares that hobby, which unluckily for you is disproportionately embraced by men, then you're going to be competing for a very small pool of people, if you can even find them.

If you flipped it the other way around and a woman who was really into [hobby hardly any men like and dominates 90% of their free time] asked you to advise them, you'd probably conclude that they might like to try and broaden their interests with some more general appeal hobbies and they might find that they can share those activities with someone and have a nice time doing so.

To me, it seems a pretty obvious choice. Try to find common ground with the people you are meeting OR remain completely inflexible and dedicated to a hobby that seems to repel the people you are meeting. Pretty easy call to make, IMO, but nothing wrong with either choice if it makes you happy.

 

[navii]

Yes, she kicks my ass in Mario cart (and other games) even though I been playing it before she was born. So frustrating.

 

[Rockondevil]

If my wife gamed then how would stuff get done while my lazy ass sits down playing.

 

[Kenneth Haight]

My wife and I have a lot of hobbies not in common with one another. It’s ok to enjoy things separately.

 

[StabbyStabStabStabStab]

Yes, more than me at the mo - I get home from work and the controllers lit and ready to go when i walk in the door and I'm like FFS LET ME RELAX FOR 5 MINS I CAN'T BREATH THIS IS TOO MUCH I'M SUFFOACTING.

 

[AJUMP23]

It was never high on my list of things I want in a wife. So it only mattered if I could game. I have been married 17 years and still gaming.

 

[Bojji]

My woman isn't exactly a big fan of games but she tolerates me playing and that's enough for me (we also have 2 screens in the same room, haha).

But we completed Unravel 2 together and she wants more so I gotta find some not complicated co-op game...

 

[Donald mac Ronald]

You could always find someone at the women-only speedrun meet-up.

USA is fully cooked

 

[Mohonky]

How old are you?

Girls who play games are super common these days in the under 30s crowd. No girls I knew played games when I was at that age, but these days it seems an almost 50/50 split at times.

 

[Mohonky]

You could always find someone at the women-only speedrun meet-up.

Is this a legitimate 'women's only' group?

 

[Boozeroony]

Is this a legitimate 'women's only' group?

Are you telling me this is not a beautiful lady?

 

[BlackTron]

I once dated a gamer girl but go figure it was a game I had no interest in playing, WoW. But I think it was a good thing because if I didn't care that she was a Warcraft nerd then she would not care at all that I played FPS games and Mario.

 

[Herbspiceguy]

Common hobbys have never been a thing for me in finding a compatible partner, as I don't consider it a thing that makes or breaks (long term) relationships.

That said, my current gf is strictly into mobile games, mainly Pokémon GO. She played some NES/N64/PS in her youth and has expressed she'd enjoy revisiting some of the games she used to play. I'm reminded now, that's still something I need to dive into.

 

[Drake]

Yes, I've dated one in the past. Was pretty fun. She was super cute, good in bed, a good cook, liked games (obviously) but highly promiscuous before she met me and eventually she cheated. Overall I'd give the experience a 6/10.

 

[Griffon]

No such luck so far. I'm very depressed about that.

 

[ÆMNE22A!C]

Sorry for this rant but I just signed up for an dating app.  FULL of good looking woman with bachelor's PHD's exotic hobbies and shit. Bro swiping right is terrifying. Then again if they're so cute and successfull and ski and sail and shit whatever wtf are you doing on a dating app. Ffs.

 

[ÆMNE22A!C]

Yeah holidays museums leadership beach skydiving wtf

I just swipe right and be honoust with them if that ever happens.

Reaching for gold I'm so in demand delusional woman.

No one talks about their issues and manual etc

As if that's not a thing

 

[Kings Field]

Nah, my wife doesn't game but she knows it makes me happy and it keeps me from sexually harassing her constantly.

 

[Ikutachi]

It's not high on my list what I look for in a woman. I can't even relate to any who plays the latest stuff when I only play the retro stuff so to get a partner one who passionately still plays the 20+ year old stuff is not exactly realistic in my vicinity.

 

[ÆMNE22A!C]

Oh yeah gaming. Would be nice. Something in common.

Sorry J jcorb

 

[Trogdor1123]

I’d love to hear from folks that do this. Don’t you want some time apart for yourself?

 

[DKehoe]

I think that sharing a single hobby probably isn't the best thing to have as the foundation of your relationship. If you like similar things then that's great but, at least for me, there are other things that are more important. I also think it's good to not date someone that's just a reflection of yourself in terms of interests. Them being into different things can help you expand your own horizons. But also if you have different interests it can give you time apart from each other to do your own thing, which can be healthier than doing everything together.

 

[Trunx81]

My sons GF is a gamer. They met over discord. It’s possible!

But try to find someone who’s also interested in the Roman Empire. That’s! a challenge