So for me, its all about intent and context
Example
friend is at a bar, my friend is 22. We've had a few drinks, a girl comes over to talk to him, she has a drink in hand and is talking about uni, what she's studying, he's flirting and joking with her.
The bar maid comes over, takes her drink, and asks for ID, she's 15.
Is my friend now a peado for assuming? To him she looked 19-20, was talking about uni (over 18 to attend), is drinking alcohol.
Was he saying inappropriate shit, sure it was flirty banter, with someone he assumed was alot older. But once he knew, he noped out the situation, and had a life lesson. Is he a creep/predator now, just for being in that situation?
Now once he knew and carried on, the yeh case closed for me
It's intent and context for me.
(Obviously this isn't exactly the dame as this situation, but it's the same outline)