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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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gaiages

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Mathunilx said:
I have a question for you guys:

Would you date someone who is asexuel?

For a long time I've wondered why I didn't really feel drawn to sex. Sure, it's fun. But so is eating cookies and playing piano. To me, sex is just a thing. I wouldn't mind not having sex ever again. Thus, when I'm with someone, I rarely have sex with them. I was dating someone at the beginning of the year and after 3 months he started being impatient. He told me he didn't fee like I loved him, because we didn't try anything yet. The relationship I was in before that lasted a year and a half and I had sex about every 1 or 2 months.

I can fall in love though. I can love someone with all my heart, and I can want to spend my whole life with that person. However, sex is something else.

Would you guys ever date someone like that? Should I try to have sex more often even if I don't really feel like it?

Thanks
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Yes, asexuals can date. It has its own set of problems but provided you're honest with your partner, it'll be fine.

I personally go the open relationship route for that reason.

Jzero said:
We pretty much have to find someone else who is demisexual, asexual, or someone who has a low libido.
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Not necessarily, but that is the easiest way to handle it. Though "easiest" is a misnomer lol

Man I wish purse owner went through with making that asexual/ace OT...
 
artsi

artsi

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Rich girl is messaging me again like every day, but nothing of substance and she's booked her weekend full like always.

Giving up very soon on her. The Instagram girl is coming over to my place tonight, we'll play some Resident Evil 7 or Until Dawn (she loves horror) and watch movies.

She rides a bicycle instead of Porsche and lives pretty frugally, but I think I'm actually more comfortable with that.
I'm ambitious myself and doing ok with work/business, but I don't want my partner to be a "performance focused" super busy person, just someone normal who I can spend time with.
 
artsi

artsi

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always crazy bacon said:
Sorry to say this, but you're the back up dick.
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Possibly, probably, not really my business and I'm not losing sleep over her.

That's why I dropped all effort long time ago on my end and I'm focusing on the girl who can actually make time.
She (rich girl) initiates contact every time and I reply when I bother, sometimes I don't.
 
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ZackieChan

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That feeling when someone edited their post to just a "." and you desperately scroll down hoping someone quoted them first.

artsi said:
Possibly, probably, not really my business and I'm not losing sleep over her.

That's why I dropped all effort long time ago on my end and I'm focusing on the girl who can actually make time.
She (rich girl) initiates contact every time and I reply when I bother, sometimes I don't.
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I was gonna suggest what you've got in the last paragraph to demonstrate scarcity, but it sounds like it's not working.
 
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TheLostBigBoss

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ZackieChan said:
That feeling when someone edited their post to just a "." and you desperately scroll down hoping someone quoted them first.



I was gonna suggest what you've got in the last paragraph to demonstrate scarcity, but it sounds like it's not working.
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i was too drunk to consent to making any posts last night
 
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AcridMeat

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Ugh massive hangover because I stayed out until 3:30 instead of my planned 10:30.

Forgot sunglasses at the brewery and I have to pick up date in an hour 1/2.

Lesss goooooo
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FyreWulff

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Messofanego said:
I didn't think there was any lower a friendzone could get until I read WaterAstro's thread.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=242897952&postcount=446
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I think it's pretty obvious that's a troll thread now. Posted later that he "listened to only the good advice to ask her out", so he wasn't actually listening to anyone, just wanted some people to affirm his stance. At this point I think the whole thing is a troll thread. And yeah the weird creepy way he talks about women like they're children to be corrected is creeeeeeeeeeepy
 
manfestival

manfestival

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So I went out on like a 5th date and things are finally starting to get serious as we both constantly pursue each other and our chemistry is off the charts. Then suddenly she drops a bomb on me telling me how she was thinking about what I said the other days of my expectations in a partner stating that she couldn't meet them and was afraid of being one to waste my time. Then she explained that she had just quit her job because she is going to be traveling for the next 6 months to a year with even the possibility of her moving to another city. It really caught me by surprise and I was at a loss for words but of course I told her that I am excited for her. We continued to have a great evening despite that but I am a little crushed inside. It is still early but I forgot the sting that dating causes sometimes.
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PancakeBurglar

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Went out day with the tattooed vegan girl I went out with last Sunday. We were going to go kayaking but she texted me in the morning she was really tired and didn't feel up for it, which I was worried was a sign she was flaking but we ended up going to the beach instead. It was a good time and we went back to my place and watch Kill Bill and made out a bit. Tried to see how far things could go but she too tired for sex. It was a good 7 hour date and I'm starting to like her quite a bit. But her schedule is super busy and I'm not sure exactly when we will be able to schedule a third date which is a bit annoying and concerning. Really want to continue going out with this girl which is nice because I've had so many dud dates lately.

Also congrats Mega!!!
 
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gaiages

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FyreWulff said:
I think it's pretty obvious that's a troll thread now. Posted later that he "listened to only the good advice to ask her out", so he wasn't actually listening to anyone, just wanted some people to affirm his stance. At this point I think the whole thing is a troll thread. And yeah the weird creepy way he talks about women like they're children to be corrected is creeeeeeeeeeepy
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Yeah, the first red flag in all that was in the OP when he said "they've been together 3 months", which is a weird as fuck thing to say about friends lol
 
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Salamando

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Leeness said:
People in that other thread are so mean �� Whatever. You guys know my type of weird lol.
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Can I send you a pic of how I look in my boxer-briefs? BTW, I don't date
I'm sorry, just kidding! I think they took "I don't date" to mean "I don't date you" vs "I don't date anyone".
 
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Leeness

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Salamando said:
Can I send you a pic of how I look in my boxer-briefs? BTW, I don't date
I'm kidding! I think they took "I don't date" to mean "I don't date you" vs "I don't date anyone".
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Send 'em over bro, I'll tell you if they look fine!

Haha maybe. Oh well. Things I say are weird sometimes, I guess. I'm just a strange person. Oh well 🤔
 
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Salamando

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What was news to me was how misogynistic the term "Friendzone" apparently is. I took it to mean anytime you wanna date someone, and they "just think of you as a friend".

Leeness said:
Send 'em over bro, I'll tell you if they look fine!

Haha maybe. Oh well. Things I say are weird sometimes, I guess. I'm just a strange person. Oh well 🤔
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Don't tempt me! Seriously though, may send over my dating profile pics, with your permission. I've been less successful recently, despite me thinking they were better.
 
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Leeness

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Salamando said:
Don't tempt me! Seriously though, may send over my dating profile pics, with your permission. I've been less successful recently, despite me thinking they were better.
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Sure! I don't know if I'm the greatest person to ask, but I'm more than happy to give an "I think?" opinion haha.
 
Mediking

Mediking

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Ahhhh... the Dating OT....

Last time I was here... Gaiages told me to stop being passive aggressive or something.

But I'm back.

Time to bring up some embarrassing stuff like old times!
 
Jzero

Jzero

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Draper said:
The other thread was of no help. I was having a casual conversation with a chick on tinder when she abruptly stopped talking. What the hell am I doing wrong?
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That conversation looks kind of boring for one. Sit on what? I'm guessing you aren't American.
 
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SoldierOfLight

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Okay so I went out to the bar last night. Pretty fun time, chatted up some hot Cuban stripper (obviously a stripper because the guy in her group gave me and my friend some free passes)
While waiting in line outside to get in. Once inside I already had my eye on this one girl.
Wasn't really sure what to say to start the conversation but I just knew I had to talk to her. Well the chance opened up with her asking someone about a drink. She got a brief answer so I jumped in and started talking to her some. Anyway, in the end I didn't get her number because....

Would it be better to just say "I hope I can see you again" (to see if she offers her # )

Or just straight up ask for the #? Which imo comes off pushy especially when not much time was shared.
 
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Etrian Oddity

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I love summer. Motivation is at its high for working out, got some equipment at the house and I've been working and eating clean most of the week (I'm not a small guy and my weight is an issue). Helps with confidence, even if pulling power still isn't too great.
 
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The First Guardian

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So, I ended up doing something like this (which was what my father advised me to do too)
Peltz said:
Ask her out first, then immediately tell her the truth if she says yes. Then ask her out again after coming clean to make sure she's still cool with it.

No point in admitting your lie prematurely. If she's interested, wipe the slate clean by admitting your little white lie and genuinely apologize to her. Then confirm whether she wants to continue.
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And it went super great. Tbh, this was a non-issue because she already knew and the reason she brought smoking up a lot was to show me it's okay if I smoke sometimes. She got super happy when I told her I'm gonna quit though. And I'm really gonna quit.

Thanks Peltz and everyone else who responded. Wish me luck on this new relationship. I have really high hopes for it.
 
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ZackieChan

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Y'all are being trolled by that guy posting chat screenshots. Please stop responding.

SoldierOfLight said:
Okay so I went out to the bar last night. Pretty fun time, chatted up some hot Cuban stripper (obviously a stripper because the guy in her group gave me and my friend some free passes)
While waiting in line outside to get in. Once inside I already had my eye on this one girl.
Wasn't really sure what to say to start the conversation but I just knew I had to talk to her. Well the chance opened up with her asking someone about a drink. She got a brief answer so I jumped in and started talking to her some. Anyway, in the end I didn't get her number because....

Would it be better to just say "I hope I can see you again" (to see if she offers her # )

Or just straight up ask for the #? Which imo comes off pushy especially when not much time was shared.
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The Cuban stripper's number? Just ask for it. Fortune favors the bold. You sure you're about that life, though?
 
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vern

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Draper said:
I mean, the convos are real. Everything else is me just being silly. I thought that was obvious.
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The chats being silly is obvious. Wondering what you are doing wrong though, who knows.. gaffers are weird, you could have been seriously wondering.
 
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SoldierOfLight

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ZackieChan said:
Y'all are being trolled by that guy posting chat screenshots. Please stop responding.



The Cuban stripper's number? Just ask for it. Fortune favors the bold. You sure you're about that life, though?
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Oh no absolutely not that one lol. Another girl I had met inside.

Just ask for it then.
 
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GK86

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Draper said:
Alright alright. Maybe my approach was flawed on that one. But you definitely can't tell me I'm in the wrong on this one:
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I know it isn't like we know the person or anything, but I think next time, black out the photo and name of the person.
 
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gaiages

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Salamando said:
What was news to me was how misogynistic the term "Friendzone" apparently is. I took it to mean anytime you wanna date someone, and they "just think of you as a friend".
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Unfortunately redpill tainted that term a bit. It gives the implication that men and women can't be friends, and that you're only nice to someone to get into their pants. An extension of the Nice Guy BS, essentially.

I believe that most people using the phrase probably don't get that implication, but better to educate about it then letting people be salty about a failed romance attempt, I guess?

I dunno that guy's situation was just weird as fuck.

Mediking said:
Ahhhh... the Dating OT....

Last time I was here... Gaiages told me to stop being passive aggressive or something.

But I'm back.

Time to bring up some embarrassing stuff like old times!
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Bruh stop antagonizing me gawd ;p

(welcome back, I have no clue what your situation was last time you were here)

Draper said:
Alright alright. Maybe my approach was flawed on that one. But you definitely can't tell me I'm in the wrong on this one:
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>.>

GK86 said:
I know it isn't like we know the person or anything, but I think next time, black out the photo and name of the person.
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I believe a mod asked us to do that last OT, so yeah. Better safe than sorry!
 
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