TheLostBigBoss
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Go in precise detail of the previous date of what she was wearing, how she had her hair, her nails, to show what a good memory you have.
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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already
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PancakeBurglar
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Had a third date with a girl tonight, went to a barcade for a couple hours had a pretty good time. Trying to set up something for this weekend hopefully.
dreamcastmaster
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You ghosted her? It didn't work before, it wont work now. So I'd just ignore and move on.
It was more like a mutual fade. Her texting habits changed, I saw it as a lack of interest and stopped texting, she never started a new conversation.
Started talking to - and set up a date with - another girl. Zero long term potential, but it'll be a fun mistake!
Mr Solo Dolo
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Much hyperbole
You make it sound like this was a long term relationship that didn't work out. It was two dates. 18 months ago.
Beren the Empty-Handed
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I thought I had a second date with this girl I went out with a week ago in the bag, especially since she was the one who brought up wanting to go out again and going out to a bar. We said we'd get in touch this week to plan it, so I sent a text out to her on Monday to get that going, but I haven't heard back since.
It seems I was ghosted, which is fine, but I won't lie it's a bit of a bummer since she seemed super into a second date a few days ago.
It seems I was ghosted, which is fine, but I won't lie it's a bit of a bummer since she seemed super into a second date a few days ago.
Really struggling since my last breakup and I have no idea why, its not like it was even that long, only 2 and a half months.
Like I said before, I don't really have many opportunities to meet different girls with where I am so it's even harder to just try and move on. Had one girl that said she liked me and was interested in me but she's gone quiet the last week too. Looked at OkCupid for the first time and made a profile but I have no idea what I'm doing there and I'm terrible at first messages, never know what to say.
Like I said before, I don't really have many opportunities to meet different girls with where I am so it's even harder to just try and move on. Had one girl that said she liked me and was interested in me but she's gone quiet the last week too. Looked at OkCupid for the first time and made a profile but I have no idea what I'm doing there and I'm terrible at first messages, never know what to say.
dreamcastmaster
Banned
You think? I just answered the question. The advice is still valid if it's dating or a relationship.
PancakeBurglar
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Do you guys ever go out with a girl and always have a great time but when you think about a relationship you aren't sure. Like I'm going out with a girl (3 times so far) and while I think she would make a pretty good girlfriend I can't help but shake the feeling of something missing and it makes me a bit hesitant.
I mean as long as you aren't leading the girl on in thinking you 100% want a relationship, just have fun. You can enjoy just casual fun or whatever, it's no big deal.
People recommend you message many girls a day not only to cast a wide net, but also because you get better at this stuff the more you do it - give it a try, but keep in mind many won't reply.
You could be (un)consciously rejecting her as girlfriend material or simply making up excuses to avoid committing.
Being attracted to someone (willing to date) doesn't mean you are willing to start a relationship with them, though.
PancakeBurglar
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Yeah I guess my main concern is I don't want to lead anyone on, I like her and want to continue to go out just not sure I want to commit to anything right now, which I guess is just part of dating.
LucidMomentum
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Well, just be honest if the relationship talk comes up.
Raptomex
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That's awkward. If you liked her I'd recommend trying again and mention you went out before to see what she says.
PancakeBurglar
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This actually is what I'd recommend, my best friend first made contact with his girlfriend off tinder, she rejected him, months later he ended seeing her on okcupid messaged her got a date and they ended up together. Not the same situation but I figure no harm in just shooting her a message.
I did this once. Went out with a girl, then ghosted, then went out with her again 2 years later.
I re-ghosted.
I know there is a How I Met Your Mother episode for this situation.
JadedWriter
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That feel when you go through a CMB profile and it's half female pictures and the other half of some dude and you start wondering whose profile it really is?
Beren the Empty-Handed
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It turns out I wasn't ghosted after all. She said she was waiting to hear from work, and now we're going out Friday for drinks. And she keeps sending me smiley emojis.
JadedWriter
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I had that date with that woman that made me wait a month...it was like waiting a month to eat McDonald's. Wasn't even a bad date just...
We spoke for at least 90 minutes and it just seems like she's not really my type. Doesn't know what she wants to do, wants to move all over the place, I already know if I wanted to see her again it wouldn't be for like two and a half weeks and it doesn't seem like anything worth waiting that amount of time to see again. It was better than my last date...I honestly don't even care if I see this person again.
We spoke for at least 90 minutes and it just seems like she's not really my type. Doesn't know what she wants to do, wants to move all over the place, I already know if I wanted to see her again it wouldn't be for like two and a half weeks and it doesn't seem like anything worth waiting that amount of time to see again. It was better than my last date...I honestly don't even care if I see this person again.
JadedWriter
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No. I've been busy with work and other shit to be honest. I guess I just used too many words to say, "This prospect isn't exciting."
Are you sending messages or waiting for people to message you? It's a contact sport.
Mr. PlayStation
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always crazy bacon
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You keep doing this and I've brought it to your attention before. You set up these dates weeks in advance and then fail. You've got to break out of this pattern of behaviour. It's you causing this, not the women. Get the date quick or tell them to contact you when they are available and then keep talking to other women.
always crazy bacon
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Yup, we've all been there. My advice is let yourself feel bad about it for a while to get it out your system and then draw a line under it and tell yourself your not going to feel bad anymore. Then, hit the gym, spend time with friends, do things you like to do and focus on self improvement.
Advocatus Diaboli
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Find other ways to soothe your ego, like going on actual dates.
Unless you have a medical problem causing this, I suggest you correct your underlying issue. Hit the gym. Also, seek therapy.
PancakeBurglar
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Hit the gym and get some bulk, best way to build self confidence about your physical appearance.
JadedWriter
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I have no control over that woman's schedule. She more or less set it up a month in advance not me. I tried to get it quicker but her stupid schedule didn't allow it. I don't even view the date as a failure. I just saw it as me being on a date with a woman that I have no real urge to pursue anything with. Why is something always my fault when it isn't even my fault? I'm not even depressed about the date nor was I even that emotionally invested in it. I don't even have her number and never even got it because quite frankly I didn't even care enough to get the stupid thing.
always crazy bacon
Banned
And here's what I said to you 2 months ago. I should have made the jadedwriter cycle .jpg back then. I guess I'll do it this weekend now if I have the time.
Megalosaro
Banned
I don't think I mentioned this, but the gf saw my gundam models in my closet and thought they were cool. She wants to build one together.
I love her so much. She's so cool.
I love her so much. She's so cool.
always crazy bacon
Banned
Yes but, how's your trip in Japan with your crazy flat mate?
Have you been tested for hyperthyroidism? That can be even more damaging than a slow thyroid
LucidMomentum
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Awesome. I just painted and am starting on my NZ-666 Kshatriya. Haven't built in like a year lol. Don't mind the nubs, I'm a scrub when it comes to detailing.
JadedWriter
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I'm not even really whining and she really wasn't the only woman I was trying to talk to, just ended up being the one that I could actually get a date out of. I've moved on...but I do think I need to tone my craziness down...need to adopt a bit of an I really don't care attitude and relax more and text less. Though I will admit everybody operates differently with dating. I will admit that my approach is shit though.
It's been close to a week now and still haven't heard back from the girl I gave my number .
Oh well.
If she still texts me later,nice but I am moving on to new hunting grounds.
Enough fish in the pond as they say.
Just a bit sad though because I really thought I had found my match.
.Oh well.
If she still texts me later,nice but I am moving on to new hunting grounds.
Enough fish in the pond as they say.
Just a bit sad though because I really thought I had found my match.
Megalosaro
Banned
He's behaving himself. He got himself some in Dogenzaka
LucidMomentum
Member
Please tell me he's at least sightseeing, it seems like an expensive way to Tinder lol
Megalosaro
Banned
He is. After Monday, he's been in tourism mode.
EchoChamber
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I used to be a ugly ass skinny dude like you but decided to go to the gym and eat a shiton of protein powder and voila I'm a ugly ass normal weight dude.
PancakeBurglar
Member
Had a surprisingly good first date, wasn't expecting much going in but walked away really excited. Originally we were just going to grab coffee but she got a flat tire so I drove to her place and helped her replace her tire, we then went and grabbed drinks and talked for a little over 2 hours. Also she is a fan of Bloodborne so she wins extra points with that, mentioned going out for a hibachi second date too. If I didn't have to get up so early in the morning I could have probably extended the evening, hopefully this goes somewhere.
Thanks man
I chose right before my finals of my grad dip to have the future talk so yeah I kinda burned myself here too (leaving aside how crap I feel overall)
I should give her and myself space right? I want to reach out but everything in me is screaming that's a bad idea for a few weeks if not months, no matter how amicable...
dreamcastmaster
Banned
I would say its a bad idea. You need time to get used to being single, not a couple. Time is the best healer.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
So I've had a few more first dates over the last week, which brings the total to 5. Honestly, I'm feeling that between balancing my legal studies/assignments and a 36-42 hour work week, I'm finding it really hard to find the time for these short dates, let alone generating enough time to give to someone I'd be dating more frequently.
I think I'm going to put dating on hold for a little while, or at least I'm going to not actively seek it on tinder or whatever. If something comes up and seems promising, I'll give it a go, but for now, I'm going to use the small amount of time I have to exercise more and explore some interests I have. Should have a lot more time freed up near the end of October when my classes finish up.
I'll still keep an eye on this thread though, the advice has been super helpful haha
I think I'm going to put dating on hold for a little while, or at least I'm going to not actively seek it on tinder or whatever. If something comes up and seems promising, I'll give it a go, but for now, I'm going to use the small amount of time I have to exercise more and explore some interests I have. Should have a lot more time freed up near the end of October when my classes finish up.
I'll still keep an eye on this thread though, the advice has been super helpful haha
Megalosaro
Banned
Was talking to each other and the conversation went something like this.
Me: how was your day?
Her: good. Missing you of course. Its too early, but I'm finding it really hard to be so far away from you.
Me: what do you mean too early.
Her: we haven't been together that long, but I feel like we have this intense bond already.
Me: I know what you mean. We clicked so well. But everything feels so right. You feel right.
Her: you feel right for me too.
I miss her so much.
Lucid, I want that kit so bad but it's pricey. But it's pure sexy.
Me: how was your day?
Her: good. Missing you of course. Its too early, but I'm finding it really hard to be so far away from you.
Me: what do you mean too early.
Her: we haven't been together that long, but I feel like we have this intense bond already.
Me: I know what you mean. We clicked so well. But everything feels so right. You feel right.
Her: you feel right for me too.
I miss her so much.
Lucid, I want that kit so bad but it's pricey. But it's pure sexy.
Jzero
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I hate you 😔
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