Just wanted to vent a little bit about my date and experience this past Saturday.
Actually I had probably one of the best dates I've been on so far. Ended up meeting him in his neighborhood, we walked around, got coffee and ended up getting lunch. We had plenty of chemistry before hand in texting and FaceTime, and it carried over into our face to face conversations. Went back to his place and played with his dog a bit. He actually initiated a cuddling session, holding hands and a few kisses. Things seemed to go very well at this point. We ended up taking his dog to the dog park/beach, where I took some really good photos of him with his dog, and the dog just running around in general. It was a cute date so far, and I was really enjoying myself. We ended the date with watching fireworks at Navy Pier in Chicago. It might have been cheesy, but it felt good.
During our evening we talked about doing some things the following weekend, he wanted me to go see Spongebob the musical with him. We had even talked about doing a Netflix day of watching Buffy, since he's never seen it. We ended up back at his place around 12:30, at this point he didn't want me taking the red line train back to my car, which was a good 30 mins away, so he actually obliged to pay for my Lyft because he was worried about my safety. I kept thinking, this guy is a keeper.
But the next day is where things just sorta went weird. I think the day after, he texted me maybe 5 times total, mostly one or two word answers. It was the complete opposite of our conversations beforehand. Sunday wasn't really any better, although he complained about a headache and said he was sleeping off and on. But still, while we had some text conversations, he would just flat out not answer or acknowledge some of the things we were talking about. At this point, I just felt something was off. That's when this morning, after I asked if he was feeling any better, he just responded with "fine." And then he told me he's sorry hes been distant, and that even though he had a good time on Saturday, he felt that we were looking for different things and he didn't see much beyond a friendship. He also stated he was going "through some things."
Which is all well and fine, but I just don't have the time for people who don't communicate. It's a real bummer, because his actions and affection on Saturday are the complete opposite of that response I got today. It's been quite a while since I've been single, having had two long term relationships in the past 8-9 years, so maybe I'm just being naive about things. While I'm glad Nathan didn't just outright ghost, I almost think this was a bit more of a punch to the gut because of the way things went. Maybe he's just the type to jump the gun a bit, but it's left me a little more cautious I think.
Sorry for ranting, just wanted to get it off my chest. I basically told Nathan that he can text me or communicate on his terms, he has my number. I also told him I'd send him the photos I took of him and his dog, since they were some really good shots, but I'm not expecting much beyond that in terms of communication.
edit: ok, new Crystal Castles song is out. let me sulk and listen to this shit.