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So... I have been dating a stripper for 6 months....

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hunnies28

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Sorry guys. Could not finish reading op. This is what first came to my mind
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ACH1LL3US

ACH1LL3US

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Carlisle said:
You started out giving her money freely because you're a nice, empathetic guy. When you stopped she started lashing out, putting you down, and making you feel inadequate and like you don't treat her right. Her tactic (either knowingly or not) is to guilt you into giving her more. I'm not convinced she's "marked" you and has been intentionally fooling you all this time (though maybe she has). I think it's likely that her mind has been warped from 10 years of getting what she wants by objectifying herself that she actually doesn't know any different. It's made her into a sociopath.

Either way, it's something you should stay as far away from as you can. There will be other girls, there will be other 10s, and when you meet them and they treat you the way you deserve to be treated, you'll look back on this in relief when you see how narrowly you dodged this bullet.
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This pretty much is what I am struggling with, what you say in my mind I know is right. Everytme I pull away from her she comes back at me 10 times stronger with nice things to say to me and how she wants to be my wife and me the father of her son etc... it plays on my emotions...
 
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Az

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OP just think about it. We have a defense force for everything. But not for your actions. Let that sink in.
 
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Jonnax

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AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. OP why are you not listening to anyone posting here? Do you think you're bragging?
 
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Bleepey

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TheOMan said:
First time I'e seen that thread - incredibly depressing, and that was 3 years ago? Dude got played by the entire family :/
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Dude, my friend and I refer to shit in the OP as pulling an Eyel1ner we were in a state of flux where we laughed our asses off, felt pity, got angry and then back to laughing our asses off.
 
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Dreams-Visions

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Good pussy has been wiping good sense from the minds of mortal men for thousands of years.

OP, I do hope you move on as soon as possible. If it's drama from day 1, what do you think the future holds? Don't be anyone's simp. Way too many fish in the sea for a decent looking, stable guy. Fish without all this fucking baggage.

Also, note the near universal response you're getting. You may feel in too deep and too in love...do what you need to do in spite of your heart. I guarantee your heart will understand later and thank you for ignoring it this time.
 
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loganclaws

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I read the OP and not going to bother reading 7 pages. I'm just going to say this and I mean this in the nicest way honestly; you're a real moron if you stay in this relationship any longer.
 
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CrushDance

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Hey Op, if you're not trolling, I get you. But please listen, it may seem like you can win or that you can change her. But I'll tell you the truth that I learned the hard way, the same truth that people kept telling me and I refused to believe. There's nothing there for you. Move on.
 
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ezrarh

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Blackvette94 said:
This pretty much is what I am struggling with, what you say in my mind I know is right. Everytme I pull away from her she comes back at me 10 times stronger with nice things to say to me and how she wants to be my wife and me the father of her son etc... it plays on my emotions...
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If you're not trolling my advice is to jerk off before you meet her. It might clear your head a little bit so you can make a decision that's not dumb as hell.
 
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Hiltz

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There's too many red flags, trust your instincts and end the relationship. I understand from our perspective it is easy for us to say this, but when you have to question her actions and the status of your relationship with her ,then something is probably wrong even if she isn't intentionally misleading you.
 
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entremet

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Dreams-Visions said:
Good pussy has been wiping good sense from the minds of mortal men for thousands of years.

OP, I do hope you move on as soon as possible. If it's drama from day 1, what do you think the future holds? Don't be anyone's simp. Way too many fish in the sea for a decent looking, stable guy. Fish without all this fucking baggage.

Also, note the near universal response you're getting. You may feel in too deep and too in love...do what you need to do in spite of your heart. I guarantee your heart will understand later and thank you for ignoring it this time.
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This is probably the hottest woman he's had.

A lot of dude just lose it completely when they date knockouts.

I was there too, so I can't hate too much lol. But I learned quickly and I slapped myself to wake up from her intoxicating you know what lol.
 
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phanphare

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Blackvette94 said:
This pretty much is what I am struggling with, what you say in my mind I know is right. Everytme I pull away from her she comes back at me 10 times stronger with nice things to say to me and how she wants to be my wife and me the father of her son etc... it plays on my emotions...
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bro, you need to look inward for the love that you so clearly need


sorry to get all deep but take care of yourself man
 
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supernormal

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Stripper from DR. That is a lethal combination my friend. Here in DR we got a word for those girls - "Chapeadora." It essentially means Gold digger but a literal translation would be something like "ice picker." Basically cutting away at you with an ice pick until there's nothing left.

There's a little Dominican culture for you.
 
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NoctisVsStar

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jehuty said:
Nah, there are tons of us in here. For what it's worth, I'm in the Midwest now. But the heights is home (well the second home after Santiago). Casa de mofongo stand up lol
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lol, Lucky 7 and South beach is what poppin right now. However, too much fights during summertime so i just go to monkey room in fort washington is more chill i mean it's near cabrini ;P
 
IISANDERII

IISANDERII

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Blackvette94 said:
Guys,

I never post personal things like this on here but.. maybe some of you have experience or know someone that has gone through this. I just need some clear guidance or expertise.

So here goes.

October 1, 2014, some friends and I from work end up a strip club, it is a very high end one in Charlotte. As soon as I walk in I see her... she seriously is a ten guys and I told my buddy standing next to me that she was my dream girl and she called her over. I talk to her for 3 hrs, no dancing or anything. She had just gave birth about a month prior and hadnt worked in over a year. She was just there to make some money.

She ends up asking for my phone number that night. The next day she texts me and asks to comeover at like 11pm to help her with her laptop. I say yes.. she comes over and we just talk and I help her with her laptop.

As the days go by she reaches out to me everyday asks to hang out. I oblige of course. I meet her little son, I meet her mom. Within a week in a half I was literally living at her place. Taking care of her and her son as much as I can, I work full time at in insurance company as a manager and it takes alot of my time up.

So anyway, after a month in the relationship she leaves for the Domincan Republic where she is originally from, she has a condo there and went there for two months. We had an amazing first month. I on my own gave her about $1k before she left because she was giving subtle hints that she didnt have any money and I felt bad for her and the child, as I care very much for them.

Things started going bad when she was in the DR, she was asking me for more money and at the time I didn't have much as I was paying my penalty to leave my apartment lease so I could move in with her when they got back. She just kept raking me over the coals for two months about how I didnt help her etc.

So I after almost two months of her doing this I just flat out said look, " I know I promised to help you out as much as I could but I cant right now, and I did help you before, I gave you money without you asking".... well she exploded at me. Said alot of mean things etc.. the next day she gets on a plane and shows up at my door with all the money I gave her and hands it to me.

I was shocked. I took the money back. Sorry... but I thought it was over with her and it wasn't a couple of bucks. We tried to work things out after that but I felt uneasy because I started to feel that she was with me as a sponsor.. someone to help her financially.

What has been a struggle with me with her is that I am in love with her, she is in love with me, I can tell, she says so. But it is always about her needing money and that in her culture and with the men she has been with in the past always helped out.

She is divorced and also has an ex-fiance. She left to the DR again about a month ago and is gone until the end of April, so another two months away, if anyone is counting that is 6 months dating her and only being around her for 2 months total.

I have to say a couple of importants things here, I will put it in bullet format:

- She got pregnant back in February by me, she had a miscarriage, she never showed proof of pregnancy, never showed one bill from the Doctor as it was an Ecoptic pregnancy and she had to have the remains removed, no proof, no dr name as she refused to give it to me.

- before she left this last time to DR , I was feeling that she was living a double life. I checked her phone and saw multiple wire transfers from a man, it happen to be her ex-fiance, she claims he just does that because he is nice, and she doesnt ask for the money

- She worked in Vegas for 10 yrs as a stripper, at the largest club their in Vegas, I cant recall the name, she claims she was one of the top ones there.

Ok, here is the final chapter. Back in december she said she was going form DR to Miami for a day to get some jewelry that was hers form her girlfriend that she could sell, when checking out her phone I saw a plane ticket from her exfiance to Miami and he had a ticket too to meet her there, I confronted her on it and she said he just wanted to meet in person to finally understand why she cant be with him. She claims nothing happened with them, but you can understand what is going through my mind, she really got pregnant by him not me... she claims he has been fixed for 10 yrs as he is still married and has 3 children.

I didn't treat her nice after knowing these things as my heart was broken, I felt lied to, she underplayed all of htis and kept focusing in on things I did wrong like not getting her breakfast that day when I confronted her and not hepling her financially.

In the end she is still in DR now, she still needs financial help and I haven't given her any. I am still in love with her, I know she is with me too but she really focuses in on the money more than anything because she has no job. She plans to come back to the states and go back to stripping to pay her bills. This doesnt bother me, her job that is. I met her there.

I just dont know what to do, I was cautious to financially support a girlfriend, I feel that I can help out but to take on her finacial responsibilities ( she owees $13k to IRS for taxes, has a million dollar home that is paid off but has to pay property taxes on it, has two cars, two additional condos, one in DR and one in Vegas). I just cant afford to help out with all of that. Its not that I dont want to help out it is just that she asks for fairly large amounts of money.

She just constantly brings up stuff that upsets her with me, like not helping out financially, not treating her like a princess, I moved into her place for a couple of days, moved all of my stuff but the apartment complex was going to fine me $7800 and I thought it was not wise as I was given incorrect information to move out early and the fees given to me previously was incorrect, etc.. It is hard to be positive when the person your with constantly wants to bring up the negative things you have done.

So what say you GAF?
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She sounds like she's very good at the manipulation game. I'm sure a lot of it was real, but it's like separating oil from water. Good on you for not marrying her or losing a lot of money. Now step even further back.
 
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NoctisVsStar

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supernormal said:
Stripper from DR. That is a lethal combination my friend. Here in DR we got a word for those girls - "Chapeadora." It essentially means Gold digger but a literal translation would be something like "ice picker." Basically cutting away at you with an ice pick until there's nothing left.

There's a little Dominican culture for you.
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I aint saying she's a chapiedora.. She's a
Jolopera LOL
 
BossLackey

BossLackey

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Why the hell would you be with this person?

She is playing you so hard, and you're in love after only being around her for 2 months?

And you've been helping with her baby since the start?

And you've given her money?

.......why?
 
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SheHateMe

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Blackvette94 said:
This pretty much is what I am struggling with, what you say in my mind I know is right. Everytme I pull away from her she comes back at me 10 times stronger with nice things to say to me and how she wants to be my wife and me the father of her son etc... it plays on my emotions...
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Listen to us, your fellow Gaffers. We may joke around a lot, but in this situation, it's not a joke.

Cease all contact with this parasite.

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Run.
 
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manzoman96

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This is one of the strangest threads I've seen in a while. I guess I have some reading material for my train ride today.

And yeah, I agree with the people who say abandon ship.
 
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Mechanized

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Run away. Run far far away. Please take this advice. Listen to the people here. We've been there. We know. Save yourself before it's too late man. This drama will not end until the relationship is over.

You might think love makes it worth it. It doesn't. She may say she loves you, but she doesn't, she loves what you provide her. Don't let love blind you, don't try to see things from her side. What she is doing is really evil, she's manipulating you so well you think this is something worth saving. End it. And never look back.
 
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