Hmmm. Everyone in the film is second guessing Rey at first except Maz. Finn's entire first scene with her is him trying to damsel her, grabbing her hand, taking charge, etc. Han tries to be alpha mechanic before begrudgingly acknowledging that she knows what's up. Kylo essentially loses at the end because he doesn't even conceive that some random girl would be able to beat him. He just assumes he can dominate her and read her mind and leave BB-8 behind, that he could just knock her out and deal with Finn, that the saber would call to him, that he could just take her on as a student. He doesn't even see her as a serious threat.
The characters have a different dynamic than the original trio, but there's still some friction. Finn is lying to everyone, and just wants to run to the point he almost leaves them behind on Takodona. Rey just wants to go back to Jakku and put her fingers in her ears and go "nananana" when her future is contradicting that. Han just wants to dump them on some other planet, dump them on Maz, get rid of them so they aren't his problem and he doesn't have to get mixed up in the Resistance business and actually face his fucked up son. It's really a story of how those three stop trying to avoid their problems and grow the strength to face them, thanks in part to how they help each other.
Finn lies about what he knows to get onto Starkiller, and when Han figures out he doesn't know shit he gives him crap for it. "That's not how the Force works!" That kind of playful ribbing seems to be what you are saying is missing.
Luke's AND Anakin's stories are both that they are incredibly special people who can save the universe. That's kind of the Star Wars story. Anakin is literally labeled "the chosen one."
And for fuck's sake, Rey has experience flying ships.
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