Dreams-Visions
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"No."ghst said:again, harboring a particular sense of belonging or identity around people purely due to race is surely something to reject with every educated fiber of your being?
"No."ghst said:again, harboring a particular sense of belonging or identity around people purely due to race is surely something to reject with every educated fiber of your being?
i guess my social group is that utopia then.Himuro said:If you are privileged and live in an Utopian world where everyone is in harmony, yes.
"sorry, i just feel more comfortable around white people" is a statement reserved for a very specific few.Dreams-Visions said:"No."
I fucks with mangoescaptmcblack said:That's just crazy, man.
It is such a sweet and juicy fruit...fuck, I want some right now.
Also, mangoes.
:lolDreams-Visions said::-O
your great-great grandmother is rolling in her grave. :lol
DY_nasty said:You're not alone... I can't stand the shit.
Imm0rt4l said:I hate watermelon.
DrFunk said:shit, I'm allergic to it
Veidt said:whoompthereitis, a white canadian, is blacker ( in the afro american sense) than all of us here combined.
BlackNMild2k1 said:*rolls up to 7-11 with a white friend*
WF: Hey I'm gonna get something to drink, you want something?
Me: sure, just grab something you think I'll like
*White Friend returns with something in a bag*
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Me: .... *gives him that look*
Veidt said:whoompthereitis, a white canadian, is blacker ( in the afro american sense) than everyone here combined.
:lolBlackNMild2k1 said:Damn, his credit mus be really bad.
damn. condolences.DrFunk said:shit, I'm allergic to it
when I was a teenager, an "oreo" was a black/white interracial relationship. guess that has changed?spindashing said:We're just a bunch of oreo cookies. :lol
ghst said:i guess my social group is that utopia then.
Imm0rt4l said:I hate watermelon.
But I don't really understand why people make that assumption in the first place. NeoGAF is a wildly diverse community and I have never seen it as predominantly (or even noticeably) 'white'. The skin colour of the membership ought not to be relevant anyway.spindashing said:Through the anonymity of NeoGAF itself, there's no way to discern a person's race unless that person makes it explicit or one of the picture threads if they so wanted to post pictures of themselves. People in the minority had no way of knowing that there was in fact, others around of their own race other than the occaisonal avatar revealing so, but even avatars aren't great for assumption purposes. With the creation of the last NegroGAF thread, it was sort of akin to a "coming-out" party in that we revealed that there are blacks around here and a lot of them. I am of Haitian descent, and I had *no* idea that there would be other Haitians in the same forum. I cannot even begin to describe my joy at recognizing that and the diversity of a forum which I assumed to not be as diverse as I thought.
Now that we see that we exist (lol), here is a place to speak of issues that come up within our groups. This thread leans heavily to the perspective of US blacks because most of us here are from the US. We do have some others from other countries: Japan, Africa, etc and we get/learn new things from them.
oh sweet JESUS. YES.
well said. cheers.captmcblack said:What, because you have friends of all race/ethnicity/sex/religion right?
So do I...in fact, so does every person of every race/ethnicity/sex/religion in this thread, and in this forum probably.
That doesn't make it any less valid that this thread, or the type of discussion in it, exists.
People need to stop trying to figure out what substantiation there is for this thread, and just accept that it is there. Then, you may even want to participate - and better yet, you may even have fun and/or learn something positive or funny!
Black people exist. We're not going anywhere. We like to talk about the things that we experience, in the ways that we experience them and the cultural context those things are filtered through. It would be absolutely fucking awesome if you'd talk with us about them too!
spindashing said:atleast it wasn't grape flavored. I lost my shit just now too :lol :lol :lol :lol
Watermelon is ok, but i like Cantaloupe and Honeydew Melon more.captmcblack said:That's just crazy, man.
It is such a sweet and juicy fruit...fuck, I want some right now.
motherfucker!Also, mangoes.
i've been under the impression i've been doing this in every thread in the ot i've ever posted in.captmcblack said:Black people exist. We're not going anywhere. We like to talk about the things that we experience, in the ways that we experience them and the cultural context those things are filtered through. It would be absolutely fucking awesome if you'd talk with us about them too!
ghst said:i guess my social group is that utopia then.
SmokyDave said:But I don't really understand why people make that assumption in the first place. NeoGAF is a wildly diverse community and I have never seen it as predominantly (or even noticeably) 'white'. The skin colour of the membership ought not to be relevant anyway.
I can tell that until the creation of that topic, most black GAFfers thought they were alone but I cannot imagine why they felt that was the case. Nobody is alone here.
Imm0rt4l said:
See, it's this disconnect that tripped me up in the first place. Is it a global thing, or a US thing?dskillzhtown said:Your social group is not the world. Try to think outside of your utopia, there is a big world out there, don't be so naive to it. Thinking that your experience or your life represents the world as a whole doesn't work.
Black culture or whatever is something that has a history because people were/are marginalized by race often in the US.
I just can't see UK Black GAF having this experience (although I expect to get corrected shortly). It seems that many of these issues are viewed entirely through a US-centric lens, a country with one of the most fucked up record on racial politics in the world.The Faceless Master said:i'd prefer that if it meant i didn't get followed by security in Target and ignored by the staff and treated as a window shopper in Best Buy. i won't even mention cops.
ok.....are you talking about black culture, or are you trying to deride our reason for this thread?ghst said:i've been under the impression i've been doing this in every thread in the ot i've ever posted in.
ghst said:i've been under the impression i've been doing this in every thread in the ot i've ever posted in.
that's interesting. conflating "keeping it real" with not being successful. I've kept it quite real and am doing quite well.dskillzhtown said:I can see in my extended family a divide happening though. Some who are "keeping it real" and not advancing in life and some who are "selling out" and moving ahead. The ones that aren't open to think outside of their life and experiences are falling behind.
It is global, I was talking to this Nepali girl just last semester and she told me why she couldn't date me, because I'm black. Even if I am a university student at the same school she's attending, her parents wouldn't have it.SmokyDave said:See, it's this disconnect that tripped me up in the first place. Is it a global thing, or a US thing?
Something like this...
I just can't see UK Black GAF having this experience (although I expect to get corrected shortly). It seems that many of these issues are viewed entirely through a US-centric lens, a country with one of the most fucked up record on racial politics in the world.
wait, doesn't the crowd make monkey noises at opposing black players in football games there?SmokyDave said:I just can't see UK Black GAF having this experience (although I expect to get corrected shortly). It seems that many of these issues are viewed entirely through a US-centric lens, a country with one of the most fucked up record on racial politics in the world.
Dreams-Visions said:that's interesting. conflating "keeping it real" with not being successful. I've kept it quite real and am doing quite well.
No, you do not have to be either or. you can be a successful minority and enjoy your minority experience without becoming subject to the negative side of your ethnicity...and you can do it without somehow forgetting/dismissing your heritage.
never been a person of dark complexion in Central/South America or Asia I take it? :lolSmokyDave said:I just can't see UK Black GAF having this experience (although I expect to get corrected shortly). It seems that many of these issues are viewed entirely through a US-centric lens, a country with one of the most fucked up record on racial politics in the world.
yea, I think we all have that cousin. :-(dskillzhtown said:I agree with that, but some that are keeping it real are only keeping it real with the negative side of things. I should have phrased it better, but I am trying to post and actually work at the same time, lol.
SmokyDave said:See, it's this disconnect that tripped me up in the first place. Is it a global thing, or a US thing?
Something like this...
I just can't see UK Black GAF having this experience (although I expect to get corrected shortly). It seems that many of these issues are viewed entirely through a US-centric lens, a country with one of the most fucked up record on racial politics in the world.
maybe I shouldn't have said I hated it, but I'll take pineapples, strawberries, mangoes or other melons over watermelon any day. I dunno some people prepare it differently I suppose, putting salt on it and stuff like that.K.Jack said:I don't understand how any human, of any race, can not like watermelon. Can anyone flatly say, that watermelon tastes bad? I won't believe it.
Then again, I don't eat fresh strawberries or pineapple, so whatever.
i'm just saying i've never had use for a white/black/asian/brown/hispanic identifier, the lines between people are completely blurred and all i'll i've ever had to know anyone by are their thoughts and how they express them. i couldn't give a single damn what colour anyone's skin is, and have no desire to start contextually framing people's thoughts and conversations based on it.Imm0rt4l said:ok.....are you talking about black culture, or are you trying to deride our reason for this thread?
I remember watermelon being the first (and of the only foods) that I've ever hated as a kid. Always hated it.Imm0rt4l said:maybe I shouldn't have said I hated it, but I'll take pineapples, strawberries, mangoes or other melons over watermelon any day. I dunno some people prepare it differently I suppose, putting salt on it and stuff like that.
No, you're thinking of Spain.The Faceless Master said:wait, doesn't the crowd make monkey noises at opposing black players in football games there?
No I haven't but this kinda feeds into what I was saying about geographical lines being the big cultural divider. I honestly doubt that a black man born next to me, that lived next to me would have a significantly clearer idea of what it would be like to dark in Asia. Hell, I don't really know what it'd be like to be White and living in South America.Dreams-Visions said:never been a person of dark complexion in Central/South America or Asia I take it? :lol
South/Central America is just as fucked up. and we all know how social status in Asia is directly linked to skin color...right?
Fuck man...ask Sammy Sosa.
:lol I suppose you've got me there. It's a shame that I (and everybody else in my generation) am held accountable for the sins of my father (well, grandfather) but I guess that's just how it goes.crazy monkey said:Dividing countries by race and religion and telling what is right and what is wrong to other people is what UK did best.
Slavery was a long time ago, get over it.captmcblack said:What, because you have friends of all race/ethnicity/sex/religion right?
So do I...in fact, so does every person of every race/ethnicity/sex/religion in this thread, and in this forum probably.
That doesn't make it any less valid that this thread, or the type of discussion in it, exists.
People need to stop trying to figure out what substantiation there is for this thread, and just accept that it is there. Then, you may even want to participate - and better yet, you may even have fun and/or learn something positive or funny!
Black people exist. We're not going anywhere. We like to talk about the things that we experience, in the ways that we experience them and the cultural context those things are filtered through. It would be absolutely fucking awesome if you'd talk with us about them too!
Well I wish everyone were like you(if you're sincere), but they aren't unfortunately.ghst said:i'm just saying i've never had use for a white/black/asian/brown/hispanic identifier, the lines between people are completely blurred and i'll i've ever had to know anyone by are their thoughts and how they express them. i couldn't give a single damn what colour anyone's skin is, and have no desire to start contextually framing people's thoughts and conversations based on it.
I pretty much tried to avoid the fruit, eating other stuff when it was the option. I don't think I've ever really ate the stuff just because I wanted to. Watermelon flavored stuff to me is alright though, because they don't really taste the same to me.DY_nasty said:I remember watermelon being the first (and of the only foods) that I've ever hated as a kid. Always hated it.
Hell, I damn near threw up in my mouth after I kissed this girl with watermelon flavored lip balm...
spindashing said:atleast it wasn't grape flavored. I lost my shit just now too :lol :lol :lol :lol
captmcblack said:These are just an infinitesimal amount of things that make being black, being black.
You don't have to understand what it's like - you just need to know that it exists like this sometimes.
captmcblack said:Probably the only places on Earth where one's blackness isn't also a general "otherness" are places where black people are the predominant people...like in Africa or in the Caribbean or something.
In America, to understand what it is like to be a black male here, you'd need to live your otherness everyday. It's not enough to just know that everyone considers you different - if only just a tiny, tiny bit - because you are black. You need to be thought of differently, perceived differently. You need to know that when you're in Bloomingdale's with a fitted cap, you will be followed around to make sure you don't steal anything. You need to know that you are not being looked for on OkCupid even if you look like Denzel Washington (whereas you'd probably get lucky if you looked like Macaulay Culkin, lol). You need to know that you're a surprise when you're successful and an expected statistic when you fuck up. You need to know that sometimes, your girlfriend's parents won't dig you specifically because you are black. You need to know that law enforcement in whereever you live at is explicitly trained to observe you and assume - even slightly - that there is a higher probability for you to be up to less than absolute good specifically because you are black.
You need to know that advertising thinks you need to have funkier music in the ads for things that are decidedly un-funky (like McDonald's) because you are black. You need to know that your favorite politicians make a big to-do about going where you live to be seen around you, but not a big to-do about honestly fixing things that suck about where you live because you are black (and you need to understand that the politician's hands are tied because he can't be seen to be giving any racial favoritism, lest his opposition suggest "OH SHIT REPARATIONS WHITE SLAVERY"). You need to know that you will not be able to get a good haircut in 90% of the country, even though a good haircut is simply shaving your head and aligning the hairline accordingly.
These are just an infinitesimal amount of things that make being black, being black.
You don't have to understand what it's like - you just need to know that it exists like this sometimes.
Blackness in America is a perpetual cultural/societal otherness that you learn to live with - and over the last 40 years as a function of centuries of work towards civil rights and de jure equality, it is also something that many have learned to love as well.
:lolbdizzle said:Slavery was a long time ago, get over it.
Annecdotal evidence but I have a friend from the uk that told me shit is just as bad there.SmokyDave said:See, it's this disconnect that tripped me up in the first place. Is it a global thing, or a US thing?
Something like this...
I just can't see UK Black GAF having this experience (although I expect to get corrected shortly). It seems that many of these issues are viewed entirely through a US-centric lens, a country with one of the most fucked up record on racial politics in the world.
Yes and noThe Faceless Master said:wait, doesn't the crowd make monkey noises at opposing black players in football games there?
I really don't want this fix to come off as smarmy but I'm short of time. I understand what you're saying, really I do. If you read my posts you'll see that I've posited that there is a strong cultural bond between African-Americans due to a shared culture, heritage & struggle. My problem is that people seem to be talking as if every Black Man is an African-American. I really hope that UK-GAF don't feel as hostile towards their country (or, more accurately, the institutions and peoples within). I'd really appreciate some input from Meus, Veidt or any Black GAFfers about how it is to grow up and live in the UK as a Black man.captmcblack said:These are just an infinitesimal amount of things that make being black in the US, being black in the US.
SmokyDave said::lol I suppose you've got me there. It's a shame that I (and everybody else in my generation) am held accountable for the sins of my father (well, grandfather) but I guess that's just how it goes.
No one is trying to make you accountable for anything except for trying to stink up the thread.....SmokyDave said::lol I suppose you've got me there. It's a shame that I (and everybody else in my generation) am held accountable for the sins of my father (well, grandfather) but I guess that's just how it goes.
I would like to understand this whole accountability thing as well, really I would.captmcblack said:Explain this.
How are you held accountable for those sins? I know there is no literal accountability (like payments/debts held, or property you had to give up or anything like that), and I can't imagine that there is any societal/cultural accountability (like, you don't have to get up and give up your seat in the front of a bus specifically to black people in the name of Rosa Parks)...so I don't get this.
Are you considered lesser because you are not black or something? Are things more difficult for you in society because you aren't black? Are there things you cannot receive (that do not have an existing more mainstream/superior/non-minority analog) because you aren't black?
I would love to understand this!
[EDIT: I already referenced that my comment is in regards to America, Dave. I can't expound on other countries because I don't live anywhere else. I wouldn't be surprised if things are similar elsewhere, though. Black people aren't exactly historically popular anywhere, heh]
bdizzle said:No one is trying to make you accountable for anything except for trying to stink up the thread.....
You doing it wrong fam. Is not "word word" Is "Word son, Word" Nah mean.Dreams-Visions said:word word.