LocknessMobster
Member
Shes not fully over her ex yo. If I was you Id start looking for some new ladies,this one seems to be playin games and ain't nobody got time for that.
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Shes not fully over her ex yo. If I was you Id start looking for some new ladies,this one seems to be playin games and ain't nobody got time for that.
Bail. Fuck these bullshit games. Let her fuck around with her ex and make sure you have no part in it.
You should always have a side girl, or two, or three or whatever. That only applies if you're not in an exclusive relationship or tied down. Don't be a jerk. But if that's not the case, anything goes. Always have back ups in case shit goes south or falls through. You never know.
Hell, the girl I'm seeing now IS the back up, and she ended up being way more than I thought. I ended meeting someone truly awesome.
NoctisVsStar
Member
Joey-San always remove your shoes before entering trust me I'm a Japanese expert..not really but That was a majestic exit bro so deluxe with it goddamn even the way you ran away was so crisp my respects
Gaf so this chick visit my profile on okc and likes me so I'm like let me see what's up with the nelly pimp juice running In my mind.. So I go to her profile and she looks good for a slim girl she got a kid which is doable and I liked her back.. Long story short she sends me an essay and pursuits me, usually I answer a few hours later but w.e she talks about her drama with ex baby daddy outta nowhere funny thing is I ain't even asked her I'm like let me use my imagination.
This chick is cray I realized a few messages in she's calling me papi, chulo, or you're so cute, can we go on a date?! All I thought was " heh I ain't white knighting this despite how fine she is" the thirst is real guys just wao.
Edit : she got two kids goddamn I feel like usher is singing me confessions part 2
Noctis, sorry to bump this, but it's too damn funny. I lost it.
I'm the opposite! Tinder hasn't really resulted in anything but OKC has.
LocknessMobster
Member
Hey if shes willing to get down like that play it up then. But yes dont catch the feels yo,at this point shes proved already that she cant be your #1 chick.
NoctisVsStar
Member
Heh be on the lookout I got date with a PR chick and Jewish girl ( I thought Jewish people didn't date outside their race i'm perplexed.. Im sucker for redheads sue me.. I don't discriminate for the record all color hair are welcomed) . So yeah don't know what to expect
Edit : some girl used the worst pick up line on me known to mankind.. this is hilarious I wish I could post a screenshot on Gaf but I don't know how to
Lol if I don't post by tonight, then you guys will know something happen and police will have a record.
Keep at it man. Still plenty of summer left!
NoctisVsStar
Member
I believe you are a fellow New Yorker if it's not a shady neighborhood you good to go brah
Eh, I usually try to get girls to meet over at my place first before a date. Mainly because I want to experience any panic/shock in private if they turn out to be uglier or bigger than their pics, and I don't want to go to a loud and crowded restaurant and try to somehow ID a girl based on 2 year old pictures she has on her profile.
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
Idk. It seems very hookup-oriented. I've only had like two conversations on there so far but they seemed to want to try a hookup right away, but I'm not interested in that at all.
Lol that's not a bad idea in theory but I find that most girls aren't comfortable meeting guys at their place (or getting picked up) on the first date.
I've been perfecting my fake smile and enthusiasm as a result :lol 😂
EdibleKnife
Member
Ah sorry about that. I'm thinking the ratio fluctuates depending on your area. If you specify on your blurb that you're not looking for that and yet still get messages for hookups, deleting might be in order.
I honestly don't know why I'm having such shitty lucky on OKC. I have the same pics more or less. Even stating my current status (college student). But I have had way more convos through tinder than OKC.
Yeah, I'm from NYC. It isn't in a shady neighborhood and her house is right by the subway.
NoctisVsStar
Member
Nice I'm from the upper westside! Stay safe breh
Melo signed with the Knicks good excuse to drink today w0ot
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
I didn't have on there before but I've added it in, though I doubt it will change much. I get so few matches anyways.
DoktorEvil
Banned
Pictures with animals gets results.
So does exaggerating your height a few inches about 5'8".
So does listing. Your build as average.
OKC is weird.
Average is better than athletic?
electricshake
Member
Some guy just asked if they could buy some worn underwear...
I hate OKC sometimes.
I hate OKC sometimes.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
i'll send you a massage
NoctisVsStar
Member
Your avatar somehow matches what you said lmao xD
SapientWolf
Trucker Sexologist
Did he try to lowball you?
Online dating is kind of hard without a good head shot. I wonder if I should find someone that knows what they're doing and have them take one.
Fisticuffs
Member
Is there a female here who could critique my okc profile. 
or a guy. I'd rather not post it here, though.
or a guy. I'd rather not post it here, though. Washington Heights too? Represent! Good luck on those dates man.
I got a new phone (Galaxy S3) and instantly downloaded Tinder. GK86 got me hooked; I've been tapping right like there's no tomorrow. After all the success he's gotten (Godspeed my good man), I need a piece of that pie. Got a bunch of likes I gotta respond to. Hit up a few girls that liked me back but they fizzled. I think Tinder is going to be a godsend for me.
Out of the several girls I hit up on OKC, I've been having a back and forth going with one. I think it's going to lead to a date. Getting back on that grind soon.
electricshake
Member
£50! But he deleted his account before I could take him up on the offer, gutted.
And as an update from the flake, I texted her this morning after my hair cut at 11am and nothing.
Upwards and onwards!
And I might've had the wrong approach to Tinder because I just secured a date.
I had 3 dates last week, 3 dates this week, and 3 lined up next week.
There must be something in the summer air.
And as an update from the flake, I texted her this morning after my hair cut at 11am and nothing.
Upwards and onwards!
And I might've had the wrong approach to Tinder because I just secured a date.
I had 3 dates last week, 3 dates this week, and 3 lined up next week.
There must be something in the summer air.
All that freshair.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Oh man I got a message. But it was sort of short and didnt really have an open ended question really, so it makes me wonder if they're actually interested.
I sent out like 15 yesterday, wasn't expecting any back.
I sent out like 15 yesterday, wasn't expecting any back.
Fisticuffs
Member
Blargh! These women keep disappearing on OKC for no reason! I am a perfect gentleman ,and I ask questions to keep the convo going, and I ask them out after a few messages back and forth.. Actually, I'm running out of women to talk to in my area.. I'm down to around 11 or so, lol. I might need to find other means... I'm kind of a dork, but I am just being me.
Wow.
I had my first "match" on Tinder yesterday afternoon, but it was someone who only had pictures, no profile text, so what are you supposed to say? I said "hi, how's it going?" which I see from the OP is completely the wrong thing to say, and now the Tinder app says I have no matches :/
Blargh! These women keep disappearing on OKC for no reason! I am a perfect gentleman ,and I ask questions to keep the convo going, and I ask them out after a few messages back and forth.. Actually, I'm running out of women to talk to in my area.. I'm down to around 11 or so, lol. I might need to find other means... I'm kind of a dork, but I am just being me.
All I can think of when someone describes themselves as a "perfect gentleman" is someone really awkward in a fedora :lol
I'll look at it if you want.
Though, just a head's up, usually people that describe themselves as "perfect gentleman"/"perfect lady" are anything but, in my experience.
And that :lol
"Hi there! My name's <name>. I saw in your profile that you're studying <course project> - that sounds really interesting! What does it entail?
I graduated from that uni last year, but I was in <different course>; I have to admit that sometimes I miss being a student!"
Messages like that (short, simple, sound interested, asking a question, making reference to something in the other person's profile, showing you have some shared experiences) are fine in my experience.
I graduated from that uni last year, but I was in <different course>; I have to admit that sometimes I miss being a student!"
Messages like that (short, simple, sound interested, asking a question, making reference to something in the other person's profile, showing you have some shared experiences) are fine in my experience.
Maddocks
Member
yup, thats what I needed. don't know why I psyched myself out. damn fool I say fool!
OK, I slapped myself a few times and remembered that this shit is just like everything else and be confident and clear. My problem was that I wanted to hit the grand slam, when a single will do.(both results end up with a score)
OK, I slapped myself a few times and remembered that this shit is just like everything else and be confident and clear. My problem was that I wanted to hit the grand slam, when a single will do.(both results end up with a score)
I would suggest you take everything that's in the OP with a grain of salt. It's not comprehensive/definitive. I've been using "hey how's it going" or "how's your weekend going?" lately on Tinder and OKC and while it's a neutral message, it works. Don't think you should come up with a witty message all the time; it would be way too time consuming to think about something for say 40 different profiles on OKC. That being said, don't be afraid to experiment and try saying different things ala what NoctisVsStar did by sending a random message. Don't mean to brag but the reason I get so many matches on Tinder is because I'm a fairly good looking guy; girls message me from time to time. But don't let that discourage you and keep tapping right; you're bound to get matches. Maybe girls in the UK are just as picky if not pickier than girls in NYC.
Fisticuffs
Member
I'll look at it if you want.
Though, just a head's up, usually people that describe themselves as "perfect gentleman"/"perfect lady" are anything but, in my experience.
Haha I was tipsy when I said that.
what I mean was, I was.. polite!
BIGWORM
Member
Synopsis?
We were in her crib, drinking outside in her backyard. She wasn't my type. Just..plan weird.
NoctisVsStar
Member
Was she into you? Did she let you slide into second base? Or was it a twilight zone date where you were talking but don't remember a word of what you said?! Lol.. In all seriousness sounds like it was a one sided affair on to the next one!
Good luck dude!
Yeah, definitely one-sided lol. She was into me. She even made a move to kiss me (terrible kisser btw). First time I have thought about an exit plan over what to say.
You win some, you lose some.
purnoman3000
Member
Fisticuffs
Member
Catfishing is so weird. I mean, what is the strategy when they meet someone in person? I don't get it.
Stargazing is pretty sweet for a first date, or even a second date when you're trying to go for the kiss. It's worked for me on both of my last two dates when going for it. It creates a nice and romantic atmosphere where you can lie down, have a bit of silence, look at her, see if she smiles back at you. If she does and keeps looking, go for it.