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Dating Age |OT$6| Just ask her out already

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artsi

artsi

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Benzychenz said:
Tinder sucks.

I've averaged a date like every 6 months with it.

In massive cities I imagine it's great, but even in just a mid size place (200k pop for me) it isn't very good.

But it's such a low effort thing that I still use it anyway.
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I live in a town with 90k people and I got 200 matches in a bit over 1 month, with 2-3 dates per week as I can't handle any more.

I think you might need to up your photo and bio game. I got a huge surge in matches after adjusting my profile and then reseting Tinder after that.
 
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Astral

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artsi said:
I live in a town with 90k people and I got 200 matches in a bit over 1 month, with 2-3 dates per week as I can't handle any more.

I think you might need to up your photo and bio game. I got a huge surge in matches after adjusting my profile and then reseting Tinder after that.
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What the fuck? It can't just be the photos. Are you really really hot?
 
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Advocatus Diaboli

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Astral said:
What the fuck? It can't just be the photos. Are you really really hot?
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I'm sure he's good looking but not, you know, Chris Evans. On my end, where I use(d) OKC (but not Tinder), I had a ton of messages and likes and could've arranged, if I wanted to, 5+ dates a week. But that shit's expensive and exhausting.

90k's surprising though, considering I live in a town of 650k...
 
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vern

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
(Meanwhile, I want to quit my job and travel the world for a year and experience things while I still can.)
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Sounds like a good weekend... and yes it's never too late! The world is full of opportunities. Was telling zackie last night I was invited to a VVIP party held by Bentley. About 60 special guests (and me lol) got wined and dined on the river at a yacht club in Shanghai, they gave out a bunch of prizes that I failed to win. But still ate and drank like a king. The world is awesome. Go get after it asap. Baltimore will always be there 🤦🏼*♂️
 
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EchoChamber

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
What is it currently? Just paste it.
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I don't remember :( I nuked my account a month ago, but I always post a joke in my bio, probably I need to tell more about myself?

Edit: I think this was the last one...
I'm in the search of someone who shares the mystical art of eating chicken wings and beer, or also coffee is ok I'm adaptable 😂😂😂
I'm not sure if I wrote it exactly like that but that was the essence of my last bio, now that I'm writing again I think is pretty bad :p but well that's why I'm asking advice.

Also English isn't my native language so sorry if it doesn't makes much sense hahaha
 
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Salamando

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EchoChamber said:
I don't remember :( I nuked my account a month ago, but I always post a joke in my bio, probably I need to tell more about myself?
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Talking about Tinder? Pics are king, they should be the conversation starters. People here have had success with a profile consisting of Lenny face emoji...
 
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Messofanego

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ZackieChan said:
Is that the photo you're using? It's an awful dating profile photo. No one cares about whatever that document is, and the peace sign is lame. Also your shirt is too big - look at the shoulder 😉

You are a good looking dude. Get some other photos where you're smiling, not smirking. Do something cool, hold a cute dog, etc. Photograph it.
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That's...not a peace sign over here in UK. It means "up yours".

2-fingers-2.jpg
 
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Haloid1177

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Went out with some people from work Friday night, ended up hitting it off with one of the girl's friends who was going through a divorce. Was gonna be a good night since she asked me to drive her home and made it exceedingly clear the wedding ring was off. Too bad she ended up drunk as fuck and halfway through the main set I was holding her up and had to tell the friend she needed to take her home. Oh well. Shit happens.
 
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slaifer

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Whelp guess no one read my previous posts. She's not in a relationship she's single she mentioned it to me as "BF" once then immediately retracted that by saying "not a boyfriend but we have this thing going on".

I'm guessing she phrased it as "thing" because she didn't know that I knew the whole abortion situation beforehand. This guy doesn't even live in the country at the moment.
 
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True Savior

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Bufbaf said:
Does Tinder really just show potential people of which you are in their set age range? I'm wondering sometimes 'cause I had a ton of girls showing up age 25ish, despite being 37 years old, and I'm having some trouble believing they actively look for guys that much older.
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It shows whatever criteria they set. Also, believe.
 
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Barrel Cannon

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Going on a second date with the girl I met through CmB. GAF you were all definitley right. I overreacted. We've been texting each other throughout the week since then, and she seems pretty excited about seeing me again.

Messofanego said:
This is literally my text I send to a girl:

"Do you happen to have a full body pic? Here's one of me: [provide a full body pic of yourself]"

Here are the responses:
Girl 1: [sends the photo]
Girl 2: "I'm really bad at full body pics...Was this a hint for you to see one of me? If you want to, all you gotta do is ask lol [sends a couple of photos]"
Girl 3: "I don't have full body pic. But I can tell you know I'm on the curvier side. People think I'm skinnier because of pics. But nope. So just thought I'd mention it if it isn't your thing. Oh I found a full body pic. But it's kinda embarrassing. I'm doing my Indian mum pose [sends photo]"
Girl 4: "I'll look in my pictures!! Honestly I usually take a picture neck up because body image issues 😂 but I may have one ☝ [sends couple of photos]"

Just make sure to give compliments after they send the photo and make them feel like their issues are totally normal, we all got body image issues, it's cool, etc. Don't be negative at all.
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I don't think I'd ever have the guts to ask someone for a full body pic over an app, but I agree that there shouldn't be a problem with asking for one. I've been disappointed by meeting a person once 2 years back based on her pics before and that chick didn't have full body pics and looked a lot shorter in person than I expected.
 
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always crazy bacon

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slaifer said:
Whelp guess no one read my previous posts. She's not in a relationship she's single she mentioned it to me as "BF" once then immediately retracted that by saying "not a boyfriend but we have this thing going on".

I'm guessing she phrased it as "thing" because she didn't know that I knew the whole abortion situation beforehand. This guy doesn't even live in the country at the moment.
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Well, I guess congratulations on being her new "boyfriend not boyfriend" then. You're the new "thing she's got going on" when she's with the other guys. Sure beats being in the friend zone right?
 
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Benzychenz

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Date #5 was weird.

Picked her up and went to dinner, then watched a movie at mine and cuddled a bit.
Last couple dates we've done this have had a decent makeout session as soon as credits hit, but my housemate was cooking (the kitchen is joined with the living area) so I suggested moving somewhere more private and she was really quick to be like "nah I should probably get home".

Then on the way to hers she said her dad was going away this weekend and they're going to have a little party that I should come to.

So idk. From how she's spoken about him her dad seems a bit weird so maybe she was just worried about getting home late.
 
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JadedWriter

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slaifer said:
Whelp guess no one read my previous posts. She's not in a relationship she's single she mentioned it to me as "BF" once then immediately retracted that by saying "not a boyfriend but we have this thing going on".

I'm guessing she phrased it as "thing" because she didn't know that I knew the whole abortion situation beforehand. This guy doesn't even live in the country at the moment.
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"This thing going on" sounds vague. Could be anything.
 
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gaiages

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slaifer said:
Whelp guess no one read my previous posts. She's not in a relationship she's single she mentioned it to me as "BF" once then immediately retracted that by saying "not a boyfriend but we have this thing going on".

I'm guessing she phrased it as "thing" because she didn't know that I knew the whole abortion situation beforehand. This guy doesn't even live in the country at the moment.
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Yes, that sounds a billion times better
 
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Subpar Scrub

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I swear this thread is always a split between genuinely useful information and making me laugh until my face hurts. Love it.

On another topic: is there a legal Gaf thread or something? I know there's lawyers and people that work in legal-centered careers that frequent this thread and I'm considering continuing on from my diploma to a bachelors. Wanted to ask them about their experiences and stuff.
 
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AllGamer

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Subpar Scrub said:
I swear this thread is always a split between genuinely useful information and making me laugh until my face hurts. Love it.

On another topic: is there a legal Gaf thread or something? I know there's lawyers and people that work in legal-centered careers that frequent this thread and I'm considering continuing on from my diploma to a bachelors. Wanted to ask them about their experiences and stuff.
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Maybe here

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=353082
 
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Valkerionseven

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Advocatus Diaboli said:
It's not a rut at all.
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Anyway. What you're experiencing isn't weird. Nor should you be forcing things. If someone's boring (to you) or not attractive (to you), then, that's completely fair. Hell, I've been there so many times. The heart wants what the heart wants.
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Heh your right, and I guess rut was the wrong word. But with my friends wanting me to get back into things, and then hanging out with people recently (this last weekend) where we were all talking about our current, past, and other peoples relationships, its got me thinking stupid thoughts haha

I should relax more I guess :p
 
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Messofanego

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slaifer said:
Whelp guess no one read my previous posts. She's not in a relationship she's single she mentioned it to me as "BF" once then immediately retracted that by saying "not a boyfriend but we have this thing going on".

I'm guessing she phrased it as "thing" because she didn't know that I knew the whole abortion situation beforehand. This guy doesn't even live in the country at the moment.
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I heard she got a fever for the flavor, she got it going on. You're just the flavor of the month ;)
 
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Advocatus Diaboli

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Subpar Scrub said:
I swear this thread is always a split between genuinely useful information and making me laugh until my face hurts. Love it.

On another topic: is there a legal Gaf thread or something? I know there's lawyers and people that work in legal-centered careers that frequent this thread and I'm considering continuing on from my diploma to a bachelors. Wanted to ask them about their experiences and stuff.
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Yes. Also, this thread. We got too many lawyers here.
 
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PancakeBurglar

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The last couple of weeks I lost so much motivation to date, I was getting dates set up I just couldn't bother to go on them. I think part of it was E3 week my mind was in other places but that doesn't excuse my flakiness. Going to try to get back into a more positive and serious mind set this week and try to plan dates I'm excited to go on.
 
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ZackieChan

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Llyranor said:
You flaked on some dates because of E3? Doesn't get more GAF than that.
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It wasn't even that good. The date would have been a better idea.

Subpar Scrub said:
I swear this thread is always a split between genuinely useful information and making me laugh until my face hurts. Love it.

On another topic: is there a legal Gaf thread or something? I know there's lawyers and people that work in legal-centered careers that frequent this thread and I'm considering continuing on from my diploma to a bachelors. Wanted to ask them about their experiences and stuff.
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Pretty sure all of us will tell you not to become a lawyer.
 
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PancakeBurglar

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Llyranor said:
You flaked on some dates because of E3? Doesn't get more GAF than that.
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Haha basically I just didn't feel like going out, but yeah I become a total shut in E3 week lol. Also I wasn't super into the girls at least based on first impressions, when it comes to dating I need to be in the right state of mind lol
 
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Ledbetter

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artsi said:
I live in a town with 90k people and I got 200 matches in a bit over 1 month, with 2-3 dates per week as I can't handle any more.

I think you might need to up your photo and bio game. I got a huge surge in matches after adjusting my profile and then reseting Tinder after that.
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I'm actually starting to think you are the real Gabriel Macht.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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artsi said:
I live in a town with 90k people and I got 200 matches in a bit over 1 month, with 2-3 dates per week as I can't handle any more.

I think you might need to up your photo and bio game. I got a huge surge in matches after adjusting my profile and then reseting Tinder after that.
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2 - 3 dates a week would be total overkill for me. Picking up at the bar is one thing but actually sitting down and having conversations and trying to get know know somebody 2 or 3 times a week sounds like a complete nightmare to me.
 
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Ultramantaro1

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This issue was coming a few pages back with other gaffers so I thought I'd share this so people realize they're not alone and it happens to the best of us.

After about a few weeks with new girl, finally went over to her place to spend the night. Call it nerves of a 1st time with someone new, or maybe I was just very tired that day, but
I softened a bit every time I went to put on a condom. There were a few starts/stops and I eventually got her off with oral sex and she was quite satisfied. I was rock hard in the morning but had no condoms left lol so we fooled around a bit more in different ways.

Only dealt with a similar issue maybe 2-3 times in my life, through all the different girls I've been with. Sometimes if I'm really into a girl, I have in my mind that I need to put on a stellar performance the 1st time to 'seal the deal' and putting that extra pressure on myself can be counterproductive.

Message to all here is to relax, have fun and don't freak out over occasional issues.
 
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Neoweee

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LookAtMeGo said:
2 - 3 dates a week would be total overkill for me. Picking up at the bar is one thing but actually sitting down and having conversations and trying to get know know somebody 2 or 3 times a week sounds like a complete nightmare to me.
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2 times a week is doable, 3 times a week ore more starts to be a serious impact, or if you are trying to make them meeting for drinks with hopes of them leading to more, which requires having a fully free evening.

The bigger problem for me is trying to get them scheduled in the first place, and keeping up with the text conversations. I've found that when I try to schedule more than 2 per week, the fizzle rate starts to climb pretty rapidly as I take too long to respond, lose women in the shuffle, etc.

If there's no real travel time (downtown Chicago), then I do have plenty of hour-long chunks here or there to meet with people.
 
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Peltz

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Valkerionseven said:
Sounds like it was!

In a weird rut dating gaf... Just not attracted to anyone really at the moment. I can see pretty girls and just ignore them, don't want to talk, get their contact, nothing. I think I need to expand my circle of potential ladies but I thought I would be ready to get back on the horse as they say way before this. Seems like my interest is decreasing instead of increasing.

I know this type of thing takes time but has anyone else gone through this recently? I figured after I cut off the last lady friend who was pretty, but also pretty damn boring, that I wanted to take a break, and start again around spring, now its summer and I still don't have that drive yet.
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I've been through that. Trust that feeling. Don't focus on getting girls right now and do other things with your time. When you meet someone who does it for you, go for it.

LookAtMeGo said:
2 - 3 dates a week would be total overkill for me. Picking up at the bar is one thing but actually sitting down and having conversations and trying to get know know somebody 2 or 3 times a week sounds like a complete nightmare to me.
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2-3 times or week was my pace when I was single, and yea, it's a bit much.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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Valkerionseven said:
Sounds like it was!

In a weird rut dating gaf... Just not attracted to anyone really at the moment. I can see pretty girls and just ignore them, don't want to talk, get their contact, nothing. I think I need to expand my circle of potential ladies but I thought I would be ready to get back on the horse as they say way before this. Seems like my interest is decreasing instead of increasing.

I know this type of thing takes time but has anyone else gone through this recently? I figured after I cut off the last lady friend who was pretty, but also pretty damn boring, that I wanted to take a break, and start again around spring, now its summer and I still don't have that drive yet.
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Yeeeep. Goin through that right now. I cant say no to a date but my interest isnt really there. I go to the bar and I look around like mmmmmeh! My ex fucked me up good. I had some long term booty calls that when we were single we would meet up once and a while for a quickie and last time I saw both of them I was so bitter and being an asshole that I ruined both of them... well one wasnt my fault but I was still an asshole.
 
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LookAtMeGo

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I was thinking of making my bio these biggie lyrics.

"Really though, I got the cleanest, meanest penis . You never seen this stroke of genius."
 
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