Rejection is not explanation. I always tell someone I'm not interested, but if they ask why then that is when I stop responding
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Rejection is not explanation. I always tell someone I'm not interested, but if they ask why then that is when I stop responding
Gotdatmoney
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His gf doesn't need our sympathy. Again, lets just not make it personal.
He thinks that guys that ghost are pussies and cowards. Okay, cool. Let's move on.
Messofanego
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Wow, quite the drama here in the last 2 pages! :O
I'm down. Let's agree to disagree.
That's a big no no IMO. Even if it's completely platonic, I personally think that's not acceptable.
Bingo
Mediking
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All because I'm a virgin. I'm sorry ;_;
LucidMomentum
Member
Trust me, some of y'all don't want to know why people broke up with you or ghosted you.
People say they like honesty, but brutal honesty from someone who isn't close to you can be BRUTAL to your self-esteem.
The problem is when people see ghosting or rejection and try to read into it more.
Honestly, if I think of things I might need to work on as a result of said rejection, then it tells me things I'm self-conscious about myself and should work on for myself.
People say they like honesty, but brutal honesty from someone who isn't close to you can be BRUTAL to your self-esteem.
The problem is when people see ghosting or rejection and try to read into it more.
Honestly, if I think of things I might need to work on as a result of said rejection, then it tells me things I'm self-conscious about myself and should work on for myself.
Puck Beaverton
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brutal honesty ain't fun
Mediking
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If it works, I'll share the story here. !!! ACTUALLY... I'll make a thread about it.
Pattycakes
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an idea that requires its own thread sounds like a bad idea already :/
Mediking
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Gotdatmoney
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My hope is it's a boring story.
"I asked her on a date. She said yes. It went well. We have another. Thanks gaf."
Boring stories are the most stable stories.
For real. People like Mega coming in and being like "oh I went on date #10" and that's it are good lol
Mediking
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Puck Beaverton
Banned
I'm hoping it will turn into a wacky sex comedy with a 2000s pop punk soundtrack.
LookAtMeGo
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Nah man. For the love of god, stay away from the crazies.
Mediking
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Lol that would be awesome. But first things first!!! Gotta get a date first. If I have sex on the exact same day I have a date on... It just hit me that people having sex on their first date must require alotta chemistry and sexual tension, right?
It's like Game of Thrones coming back on HBO. The subscription finally pays off.
Gotdatmoney
Member
"We had sushi, I don't really like sushi but the decor was nice. Will update on next date!!!"
Please god, the boring shit is what keeps me sane, the crazy shit is what keeps me coming back.
Anime avatars can never make us proud. Committ avatar sudoku. Only then can true pride be obtained.
The crazy people gotta date the crazy people and stay the fuck outta my neck of the woods. I had a friend who only dated crazy girls. The drama was not worth it.
I live a very plain dating life. I am gonna try to keep it this way.
Pattycakes
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Dating Age |OT$7| Go crazy with the drama. Stay sane with the boring.
Well, I'm going to be dropping in here from now on. Posting here as an intro, as well as a way to kind of formalize this new and scary single status.
Short summary: I just got out of an extended (5 year) relationship that went....friends > absolute best friends > absolute best friends with benefits > girlfriend > living together bordering on marriage > best friends.
We both came to terms with some issues that were never going to go away (lifestyle and ambitions, along with the fact that she has two kids that presented a significant challenge). We were only a formal couple for 1/3 of that time, but moved in together 3 years ago. She's actually still renting part of my house and we're going to continue the arrangement until it doesn't make sense anymore. We're both feeling good about the decision so far and have done the roommate thing for a few months without any issues, so we'll see.
Anyways I've gotten back on Tinder and am going to see how things go on there. Looking to keep it light for now, as I'll be swamped with work/school in another month.
It's weird, because I'm 32 and technically haven't been on a date since 2012 when a 2 year relationship came to an end. That whole ordeal ended in me filing a restraining order (she made threats against my family and actually fabricated documents from a family member who had passed away, among a bunch of other stuff). I've been maintaining a box of letters and evidence should I ever need it, but she's married now, so hopefully I won't have to worry about that again. At least you all will be here to appreciate the crazy if I encounter it again.
On that note...Hello dating GAF! I look forward to learning and contributing to this hivemind of wisdom and experience!
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Short summary: I just got out of an extended (5 year) relationship that went....friends > absolute best friends > absolute best friends with benefits > girlfriend > living together bordering on marriage > best friends.
We both came to terms with some issues that were never going to go away (lifestyle and ambitions, along with the fact that she has two kids that presented a significant challenge). We were only a formal couple for 1/3 of that time, but moved in together 3 years ago. She's actually still renting part of my house and we're going to continue the arrangement until it doesn't make sense anymore. We're both feeling good about the decision so far and have done the roommate thing for a few months without any issues, so we'll see.
Anyways I've gotten back on Tinder and am going to see how things go on there. Looking to keep it light for now, as I'll be swamped with work/school in another month.
It's weird, because I'm 32 and technically haven't been on a date since 2012 when a 2 year relationship came to an end. That whole ordeal ended in me filing a restraining order (she made threats against my family and actually fabricated documents from a family member who had passed away, among a bunch of other stuff). I've been maintaining a box of letters and evidence should I ever need it, but she's married now, so hopefully I won't have to worry about that again. At least you all will be here to appreciate the crazy if I encounter it again.
On that note...Hello dating GAF! I look forward to learning and contributing to this hivemind of wisdom and experience!
Also reading about other people's crazy.
Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
I mean, no, its not required or even necessarily there; sometimes people just want to do the deed, my man. Sex doesn't require anything but functioning parts.
I mean, don't get me wrong, I really enjoy sex but you are like hyping it to the point it will never live up to the image in your head. 23 isn't even that old.
All it requires is a girl who's horny and a guy thinking "why the hell not?"
Mediking
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Blame erotica.
Blame hentai.
Blame porn.
Blame sex scenes in tv/movies.
I-I mean, uh... blame my own vivid imagination
Heh lol
Puck Beaverton
Banned
I pray to God you never apply anything you saw in hentai into real life.
Pattycakes
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TheLostBigBoss
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Reminds me when I was a kid drawing Zoids in class.
More spikes = more fun!
Edit: Oh god now that's in my amazon search history
Mediking
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I am virgin too for different reasonssometimes i feel it impacts my self confidence but i try to go on.Today i was in a group therapy that is also part of a program to help people on disability to find a job. The man who organized it told us there was nothing wrong with beig virgin lately. I think same. He also told me somehing i am not fullly aware of in general, saying that when i walked,etc i looked too introverted, as if i was 100 000 years old or carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. He suggested me to try and get a psycho therapy to work on my image, i will have to think about it i guess.
You know what's really going to throw you for a loop? When you do lose your virginity, you won't be expecting it at all. You'll just be on a third date with a girl, droppin' her off at her door, when she invites you in for coffee or "a tour" or something. Five minutes later, you're laying in her bed while your naive ass wonders if you should make a move.
You need to take Sex off a pedestal...it's not special, and you certainly can't plan for it. You can only prepare for it (have condoms, know how to use them). And never expect it. It happens when it happens.
Angry Grimace
Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
I agree, you're gonna turn it into some kind of complex if you keep worrying about it. It will happen eventually and the first time will probably be disappointing given your expectations.
Mediking
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I get it. I understand. Its just... its something I really want. I have realistic expectations. Obviously she's gonna say I'm the biggest she's ever seen, y'know? ;D Lmao
EchoChamber
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Obviously since you are a gaffer.
Gotdatmoney
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Clearly not. But it also doesn't really matter either way. It will prob be good for you to just get it out the way.
Mediking
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Well, the realistic expectation is that we're both satisfied and drenched in sweat and cuddling and breakfast in bed and quickie in the morning and- lol
LordKasual
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man...just being able to say you smashed alot of the time is better than the smashing itself lol
in most of my experience, real sex is mostly just two clumsy and really horny people figuring out where their pleasure buttons are.
drenched in sweat, sure....
satisfied, LOL
i mean, i'm sure you probably will be
dreamcastmaster
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Is this poster for real? He's got an odd way of expressing himself. Like a character left on the cutting room floor of American Pie "self cockblock kid".
Scene: After a successful date Self Cockblock Kid gets invited back to a girls home for coffee
Girl: so umm, my parents aren't home, would you like to come back for coffee?
SCK: ohh right, yeah this is it! you mean "cockee" right? Lol. Yeah sure gal, like looks like my plan to loose my virginity worked! Oh yeah, I'm a virgin but like totally cool with it, I Know the first time wont be very good LOL I have my expectations in check but I know I'm going to be awesome at it LMAO. Anyhoo the second time we do it I definately will be awesome and your going to be thinking "I should have taken this guys virginity sooner" lol. Oh, just one more thing after we have done it I just need to let you know I dont smoke becuase Ive seen the movies and thats what your supposed to do. But how I like to relax is watching anime, so I've got some episodes here on my phone we can watch in bed together after we have finished up the sexing. Lol.
Girl: Umm never mind. I just remembered my parents are actually home tonight, sorry.
Mediking
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I've been poking fun at myself about this situation ever since I receieved good advice earlier in this thread...
Megalosaro
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My honest prediction is that you're gonna be so nervous you don't even get a hard on.
Don't take it too hard when it happens.
Mediking
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I've heard stories of this. To help prevent that, I've been doing NoFap.
I also heard stories where people couldnt cum OR came too quickly. But even a virgin like me knows that foreplay is key. Gotta ask her what she likes.
Megalosaro
Banned
It's not even about fapping or not. Sex is pretty stressful, especially if you build it up or haven't has it in a while.
Trust me, you're overhyping. The moment it doesn't feel the way you expect it, and something goes wrong you are going to panic. Cue limp dick
Whatever your idea is, it's probably stupid. That sounds harsh and mean, but I mean it in the kindest way possible. Don't do something over the top or complicated. Just act normal. It's simple. It really is.
LordKasual
Banned
^this is real shit lol
when i first popped my cherry, it was on a girl i was crushing on in college really hard. I was so nervous that i honestly couldn't even really get any pleasure out of it, despite fantasizing about her for like months
I guess she really enjoyed it because she was super into round 2 the next morning, but since I had calmed down I had degraded into a 10-pump chump LOL
that became disappointing quickly
Odds are that none of that will happen. Maybe a quickie in the morning, but no to the rest.
dreamcastmaster
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Happened to me the 2nd time I had sex, the limp dick is real even for young guys.
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