Peggies
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You guys make it sound as if having sex per se is something deeply flawed.
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Does A Woman's Body Count Matter to Men, Yes or No?
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Shaki12345
Member
For sure. This topic shows how insecure men can get and why women don't want them.
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Sybrix
Member
In principle, no.
Firstly, what is a high body count defined as? 100+ in my educated guess.
However, i don't think you can overlook the physical impact on a woman having a high body count.
A male having a high body count has no lasting physical effects.
A woman having a high body count may have lasting physical effects.
Ergo:
Firstly, what is a high body count defined as? 100+ in my educated guess.
However, i don't think you can overlook the physical impact on a woman having a high body count.
A male having a high body count has no lasting physical effects.
A woman having a high body count may have lasting physical effects.
Ergo:
Bojji
Member
Yes, obviously only one side will feel it.
High promiscuity is not really standard behavior, having much more sexual partners than average means woman has some hidden problems (fucked up childhood, daddy issues etc.) or is addicted to sex. None of this is good.
This is average:
Plus there are answers to OP question:
People care about this stuff, believe it or not.
Shaki12345
Member
So Austria is the place to be then?Yes, obviously only one side will feel it.
High promiscuity is not really standard behavior, having much more sexual partners than average means woman has some hidden problems (fucked up childhood, daddy issues etc.) or is addicted to sex. None of this is good.
This is average:
Plus there are answers to OP question:
People care about this stuff, believe it or not.
EDIT: for real though, this is interesting. Thanks for sharing.
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OmegaSupreme
advanced basic bitch
It's one of those things I'd rather not know.
Peggies
Gold Member
Putonahappyface
Member
Again, that's not healthy, me and my wife have been very open about our pasts, if you constantly suspect your partner is lying to you then that's not a good base and suggests you have trust issues.
GymWolf
Member
I'm just saying as it is dude, humans lie, it's in their nature, especially when a lie can save a relation and do virtually no harm, so you have 2 options:
Believe whatever she says even if it's bullshit (and you have NO WAY to know the truth)
Not caring about body count to begin with
And what about if you're asked? Would you lie? You assume the answer you're getting is a lie but what if that's the truth? Does that not indicate you having trust issues? How long would it be before you start to think she's lying about other stuff and then the resentment starts?
GymWolf
Member
Bodycount doesn't matter for men as it matter for women, some women would be happy to have a dude with an high body count because it means that he has high valuable assets that many women find attractive.
Men have caveman mentality and an overused hole is just an overused hole and it means the woman is easy and she is ready to fuck you after a couple of drinks.
So no, men usually don't lie unless they have an extremely low bodycount and in that case they even inflate that number to not look ridicolous.
Saying that everyone lie and you have no way to prove a bodycount is not having trust issue, it is called being a non-naive human being in 2025, you can accept that or live on your ideal world where nobody lies when asked something like bodycount, i'm a pessimist by nature so i would not even ask to begin with.
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You side stepped the whole trust issue part my man. I'm just worried at this point some of you are not actually enjoying relationships. Some of you need to get off the internet and interact with actual people in real life and you'll realise what you see online is usually the worst examples blown up to the extreme.
GymWolf
Member
And i think you are playing too much gaf doctor phil just because people don't have the same opinions as you, i didn't posted to ask your help so keep your worrying for yourself, that shit is weird man.
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It reveals a lot when people get defensive over advice like "just be open with your partner so you can enjoy your relationship". If it's weird to want the same for other people then I'll gladly be weird but hey what do I know, I've only been happily married for eight years now and have a great sex life.
GymWolf
Member
Dude you said to go out and touch grass to people you don't even know just because they have a different opinion (not even a different opinion really), how can't you realize how preachy you sound?
It's normal to be a bit defensive when you act like that, so maybe take a couple of step back and don't tell people what to do just because they don't care about bodycount or because they are telling you absolute facts like humans lie and you can't check if a bodycount is real or not.
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Perhaps I say it because I've been through that phase already? There are things that are still the same as always and in my teens I used to browse 4chan as someone who struggled with self esteem and bought into the whole "women always lie" and "women are whores" rhetoric. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 17, still struggling self esteem.
In my 20s I countered that, turned into a man whore, my body count must be in the 60s or 70s by this point, and during that time it turned from me just wanting sex from people to getting into agreements, temp relationships, fuck buddies, etc which is where I learned that being open and honest worked best, there was less arguments, the boundaries were clear, the sex was better, etc.
Hell that's how I met my wife, we started out as fuck buddies but ended up spending more and more time together, started dating properly and tied the knot a few years later and we're still going eight years later!
That's why if there's any advice I would pass on to people it's to communicate, be open with what you want, there's a match out there for you somewhere. If you're just going to be angry and assume everyone is lying to you then the other person will pick up on that and you're not gonna have a good time.
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GymWolf
Member
Dude i don't know how you created this entire movie inside your head just because i said that people lie but ok.
You are really taking this shit too seriously.
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I just want my fellow gaffers to thrive and be happy in their relationships going forward. Learn from other people's mistakes and experiences and all that.
thegame983
Member
Ideally, the female should be clean.
ConkerTheSquirrel.
Member
I'm noticing a trend here.
If a man expresses what he looks for in a woman, he's called to be a "real man", and that he should "grow some balls".
But if a woman has a high body count, men are just told accept it and roll with it, as if it's not a problem? Women can list all these "icks" that they observe in a man, but the minute that men make known their preferences, we're just told to accept her past?
"Of all the guys she had, you're the last one. You survived the Battle Royale"
- Shaki12345
You guys realize how cuck-ish that sounds, right?
If a man expresses what he looks for in a woman, he's called to be a "real man", and that he should "grow some balls".
But if a woman has a high body count, men are just told accept it and roll with it, as if it's not a problem? Women can list all these "icks" that they observe in a man, but the minute that men make known their preferences, we're just told to accept her past?
"Of all the guys she had, you're the last one. You survived the Battle Royale"
- Shaki12345
You guys realize how cuck-ish that sounds, right?
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squeakywheel
Member
Yes if it's 15+ I'm bailing. I would insist on a STD exam too. Women should expect the same from men.
I get the feeling you've already got me on Ignore because I've covered some of these in the above posts, I just hope you find a relationship in future that makes you happy, women arn't your enemy.
dark_chris
Member
I honestly don’t care. Body counts is just body counts, sex is enjoyable and we all have fun. One of my exes had a high count, I didn’t care. This also pertains to the fact that I enjoy sex and would sleep around back then.
Donald mac Ronald
Member
Isn't cuckolding becoming mainstream now.
Men like seeing that high body count.
Men like seeing that high body count.
INC
Member
Yes of course, it will make me automatically form an opinion on the type of person they are. A leopard doesn't change it spots. Higher the number the more likely for them to continue a certain behaviour, ironically its a number game.
The bigger question is, what number is too high? And would you want the real answer? Well 99% of the time you'll never get the real number anyway.
I have a girl best friend and she told me her number was in the high 60s, and thought that was high, until she said 80% of them were women, my response was, imo sleeping with women doesn't count to men generally
The bigger question is, what number is too high? And would you want the real answer? Well 99% of the time you'll never get the real number anyway.
I have a girl best friend and she told me her number was in the high 60s, and thought that was high, until she said 80% of them were women, my response was, imo sleeping with women doesn't count to men generally
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ConkerTheSquirrel.
Member
They aren't your enemy, but they sure aren't your friends, either.
Men should more assert themselves into what they want out of a woman. Maybe then, they'd have no choice but to be held accountable (lol, imagine that).
Peggies
Gold Member
ConkerTheSquirrel.
Member
You have no retort, because you know I'm right.
Or am I going to get the usual, "man up"?
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ConkerTheSquirrel.
Member
Guys, I think I got it:
Best to just suffer in silence, because calling it like it is will get you gaslit to high-heavens.
These people will ridicule you if you address reality, and won't even make an attempt to retort.
So just shut up and tow the line. Women don't care about men's plight. They never did.
This thread's taken enough time from me as it is.
Best to just suffer in silence, because calling it like it is will get you gaslit to high-heavens.
These people will ridicule you if you address reality, and won't even make an attempt to retort.
So just shut up and tow the line. Women don't care about men's plight. They never did.
This thread's taken enough time from me as it is.
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Dacvak
No one shall be brought before our LORD David Bowie without the true and secret knowledge of the Photoshop. For in that time, so shall He appear.
I mean, in my youth (teens and twenties) I was definitely very active. But I’ve absolutely changed from the person I was to the person I am now.
I’ve never once cheated, and I never will, so I don’t think my “body count” has any relevance to my current relationships. I can’t rightfully judge other people for the promiscuity of their youth, especially during a time of personal experimentation and discovery.
If I’m being honest and simplistic, it sounds like a lot of the people here just never got laid when they were younger, and therefore harbor resentment towards those who did. I may be way off, but that’s my probably-flawed read on this thread.
Exactly, despite me being a damn man whore in my 20's I've not felt the need to cheat at all and I've been married now for eight years, and better yet, we both still get hit on, we just turn people down and laugh about it later with each other.
TDiddyLive
Member
If you want a partner that’s healthy and will stay healthy, then yes it matters.
www.health.harvard.edu
More sexual partners, more cancer? - Harvard Health
A study of older adults found that those who had had more sexual partners were more likely to have developed cancer, but that does not mean there is a causal connection, and there are many ways tha...
www.health.harvard.edu
From that very article you linked to:If you want a partner that’s healthy and will stay healthy, then yes it matters.
More sexual partners, more cancer? - Harvard Health
A study of older adults found that those who had had more sexual partners were more likely to have developed cancer, but that does not mean there is a causal connection, and there are many ways tha...
In addition, people with more sexual partners tended to smoke more and drink more alcohol. These factors could, themselves, increase the risk of cancer. So, certain factors — in these cases, infections, smoking, and drinking — could have an impact on cancer risk, rather than having sex or the number of sexual partners.
While future research could find previously unidentified risks in having a higher number of sexual partners, we already know enough to explain the connection.
The bottom line
While it may be tempting to conclude from this new research that limiting the number of sexual partners you have will lower your risk of cancer, I think that would be a misinterpretation of the data. The better take-home message would be to take precautions to avoid sexually transmitted diseases and pursue other proven strategies to lower your cancer risk, including stopping smoking and limiting alcohol.
Topher
Identifies as young
nush
Member
Imagine if that’s when you find out she’s shit in bed or doesn’t really like sex…
AJUMP23
Parody of actual AJUMP23
If neither of you had experience I don’t think anyone would know what is good or bad. As long as you are in a committed monogamous relationship with each other. And what an enjoyable thing to learn together. What you enjoy about the physical intimacy with one another.
DeafTourette
Perpetually Offended
How are you suffering? WTH?!
She chose you! You're winning! Talk about pissing on yourself!
So if she's an awesome woman DESPITE her past... You're gonna dump her BECAUSE of her past? Even if it was YEARS ago?
Yeah, I'm done with this thread and the virgin-lite shenanigans.
TDiddyLive
Member
I read more simply as a promiscuous partner is more likely to gravitate towards habits that are negative to general health.
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Dirk Benedict
Member
Yes. Body count should matter, regardless of the gender in question.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Peggies
Gold Member
You make it sound as if we were at war.
You have no retort, because you know I'm right.
Or am I going to get the usual, "man up"?
I blame Social Media and Dating Apps.
Perfect breeding ground for this simplified view on hurtful stuff. Don't be angry. "Women" are not the issues - entitled assholes are (doesn't matter if woman or man).
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
I answered "no" because the measure of a person is a sum of their personality traits, kindnesses, unkindnesses, memories, values, networks, education, and a vast array of other elements, actions, and choices. I assume the rest of the question is "Does a woman's body count matter to men . . . in the context of forming a romantic relationship with them". From that perspective, I'd say that a person's personality, humor, moral framework, network of friends/family, hobbies, interests, intelligence, and a dozens of other characteristics are much more important to me when deciding whether or not I'm interested in someone. Does a person's body count and only their body count necessarily inform me in great detail about any of those character traits? Very little. To that end, having a disproportionately strong concern about body counts feels like barking up the wrong tree. Ultimately, it's none of my damn business what their body count is, and it's none of anyone else's business what mine is.
What makes the question a contentious one is that you also asked it in an ambiguous way that could lead to multiple interpretations and people talking past each other because they are working on different definitions or assumptions.
Is my initial assumption correct? Are you inquiring if body counts matter (in a romantic context)? What is it specifically, or which question is the one that is most important to you? "Do body counts matter when looking for a girlfriend"? "Do body counts matter when looking for a wife"? "Do body counts matter when looking for a casual hookup"? "Do body counts matter when looking for a friend"? "Do body counts matter when looking for a certified public accountant"?
Additionally, why is "high body count" equal to "whore" in your view? What range does that number have to be in to qualify as "high body count" or "whore"? Why exactly does associating romantically with a person like that not give you a sense of pride? Does it not matter if this person with a high body count is otherwise very compatible with you, personality wise? A high body count would override this?
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