Ehhh, yes and no I guess. Like I said, if I ever went on a date again (lol) and someone I wasn't into tried to kiss me, I'd just go along with it because I don't like saying no, and then go scrub my mouth out with soap later. :/
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Ehhh, yes and no I guess. Like I said, if I ever went on a date again (lol) and someone I wasn't into tried to kiss me, I'd just go along with it because I don't like saying no, and then go scrub my mouth out with soap later. :/
Saying no is an important skill to cultivate. Boundaries are important to establish with all people - whether you like them or not.
You know they have mouthwash for that, right?
I've had kisses like that, where the lady was not as into me as I thought they were, and that was soooo clear in the kiss. I can't say I regret them though. They established that I'm not looking to be just friends, while simultaneously telling me the lady did not want to be lovers.
You kissed a guy once! There's still a possibility! (Though Zackie getting serious with a girl killed the shipping)It's all good, I won't be going on dates anymore, so no need
I'm being facetious with the soap lol. But you know what I mean.
I'm good with never kissing another guy again lol
Attack You
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Girls are more fun to kiss anyway. No beard hairs getting snagged in your teeth.
Attack You
Member
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I still don't get why... you aren't attracted to literally anyone?
If you posted about it before could you at least direct me to the post? I tried to find it last time you said something like that but couldn't. Sorry if I'm being nosy. But I'm genuinely curious.
Spaced Harrier
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Yeah but when it's good, great, and you can actually feel that time stopping electricity in your lips, when your two minds synchronize and read each other, you push and pull, give and tease, ebb and flow in perfect symphony...
...Those are the moments worth living for.
...Those are the moments worth living for.
Which lips are you referring to?
Jeez dogs it's just a kiss. Have fun on the first date, read the vibes, if you're into the other person then kiss them. It's not complicated. If they're not down to kiss, you'll know before you get too close to them and no it's not a date ruining mistake.
It seems like 90% of the problems discussed in here are a result of overthinking.
Kissing is overrated anyway. You're not missing out on much Leeness (+ other gaffers who don't kiss).
It seems like 90% of the problems discussed in here are a result of overthinking.
Kissing is overrated anyway. You're not missing out on much Leeness (+ other gaffers who don't kiss).
Sorry, stupid work requests has killed my facetious-ness detector. You have no idea how many nonsensical projects I worked on that I thought were my boss trying to be funny.
Unless it's changed, she considers herself asexual. At best, demisexual
Gotcha. Just curious, why do you hang in the dating thread if you feel asexual or demisexual? Do you desire to date someone who feels similarly about sex the way you do? Or do you not like dating at all?
Jzero
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SAD
I'm "demi" and non-sexual physical affection has to be the best feeling in the world. Holding hands, cuddling, and kissing people is just a magical feeling.
Yeah, that one four years ago was kind of nice.
Peltz:
This is correct. I just like being here and talking about it, even though I don't participate. -shrug-
Actually very happy lol
Attack You
Member
We demis just like watching the rest of you struggle. But really, it's not a bad thread for general social etiquette. Thankfully, we don't have to kiss any of you
and mean it.
My understanding is that many asexual individuals still crave human companionship and affection, they're just not interested in sex. Obviously every person is different though.
I'm sure some people are both asexual and aromantic (that would probably be the most convenient). Being asexual but still craving romance would be a challenge unless you were okay with your partner getting sexual fulfillment from others.
I'm sure some people are both asexual and aromantic (that would probably be the most convenient). Being asexual but still craving romance would be a challenge unless you were okay with your partner getting sexual fulfillment from others.
ZackieChan
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Here in Thailand there's an unwritten rule about no PDA. So goodbyes are awkward as fuck, no hugs, no kiss, etc. All solved with a quick offer to go back and watch a movie/tv at my place, though.
Do your girls know how much you love that terrible Batman v Superman movie? That's worse than your creeping norwoodism
I do the coffee as an initial "are you someone I want to date?", then move from the coffee date to somewhere else for more of a romantic date if things are working out. Learned this from the Pickup Artists, but moving the date from place to place does really increase intimacy faster, since it's like having 2-4 dates in one (coffee, lunch/dinner, movie, drinks, etc. in one date).
Nearly every time someone thinks their situation is super unique, complex, or unexplainable, its the same basic-ass friendzone shit.
It's all good, I won't be going on dates anymore, so no need
It's a good skill to cultivate in all relationships in life, not just the romantic ones.
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We've become the catch all for friendship GAF stuff too, since no one wants to make a thread about that and a lot of the advice can actually overlap.
That's basically me at this point, asexual and romantic lololol. I personally just hate sex, I get no real pleasure from it and it's a (literal) pain. I still do it, but am just like 'meh' towards the whole thing. I gave my SO the go ahead to find some hookups or FWBs to help with any sexual tension, but he's too lazy to go look
and for now the BJs are satisfying enough lol
Haha, i just can't. "Maybe some other time" or "ehhhh" is about as far as I go haha.
Thank you for not giving me the bum's rush ❤️
That's basically me at this point, asexual and romantic lololol. I personally just hate sex, I get no real pleasure from it and it's a (literal) pain. I still do it, but am just like 'meh' towards the whole thing. I gave my SO the go ahead to find some hookups or FWBs to help with any sexual tension, but he's too lazy to go look, so I guess he's fine with the current situation of occasional sexand for now the BJs are satisfying enough lol
Almost ideal, but without the spoiler lol. It would be nice to have a romantic kind of thing with cuddling and being close, but not really in the cards and mostly given up on it. Meh!
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
Would argue its underrated if were talking spit swapping, tongue tying kissing.
Get sloppy
LookAtMeGo
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I have been making out with my hand in preparation for my date on Thursday.
Megalosaro
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Were talking about kissing?
Last week I was maaaaaaad tired but we were making out.
Started passing out while kissing. Ended up droolin all over her face.
Lol. It was 3 am.
Last week I was maaaaaaad tired but we were making out.
Started passing out while kissing. Ended up droolin all over her face.
Lol. It was 3 am.
Jzero
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Horse Detective
Why the long case?
How do you even progress without kissing
Attack You
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This one time my girlfriend and I were getting out of a cab. She got out first, turned around, and leaned in to kiss me just as I was getting out behind her. Headbutted me right back into the cab. I honestly thought that was her way of telling me I couldn't walk her to the door.
LookAtMeGo
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Sweet handshakes
Advocatus Diaboli
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Making out is fun. Don't want to kiss for hours, though. I guess I get my "buzz" through latent exhibitionism, considering I'll do things shamelessly in public. Girls who hate PDAs can't stand me, but I'm legit like, "I just can't resist you." Has a 98% positive rating.
Cool! Speaking of dribbling fluids, does your penis work?
We are your biggest cheerleaders.
You don't.
Talking!
SmackDaddy
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And butt stuff !
LookAtMeGo
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Dirty talking?
Gotdatmoney
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You don't.
Sorry for opening this can of worms. I saw a few people make comments about asking/commenting for a kiss in this thread, asked, and led to like a two page derail. I'm not that oblivious-- I know how to read signs, and generally lean on the side of "go for it".
ZackieChan
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Man, I love kissing. When the vibe is right, I'll kiss for a long time before moving on. I feel like a teenager.
Jzero
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Oh christ. My trainer's trying to set me up with another client. All the info I could get about her - she's Chinese, and is an engineering student in some capacity. No clue on age, grad/undergrad, what type of engineering....
Never underestimate the power a skilled tongue can have in romance!
I wouldn't need any hands to count the number of times that worked
Never underestimate the power a skilled tongue can have in romance!
Fulminator
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what's the verdict on initiating contact through instagram?
Met this really cute girl at school, made conversation with her, we talked for like an hour or two, but she slipped out that she had a boyfriend so i didn't ask her out. We talked a couple times after that as well, one of those times being another hour ish conversation. Seems she no longer has a boyfriend (based on social media, but who knows how accurate that is), and we are both still in the city after school has gotten out. Would it be weird to reply to an instagram story of hers? She mentioned to me that she was interested in doing bar trivia (obviously i wouldn't message her straight up with this, comment on the story first and build up to it? I'm fine if she doesn't want to date me, i'd be more than happy to be friends with her, I just want to try out bar trivia lol and she mentioned it (and is really cute), so I thought I'd ask her, but I'm not sure if it's weird to do it through instagram. Alternative is waiting until school starts up again and talking to her in person, unless i somehow run into her in the city. I don't have a crush on her, or pining or whatever either, obviously not gonna put all my eggs in one basket.
Met this really cute girl at school, made conversation with her, we talked for like an hour or two, but she slipped out that she had a boyfriend so i didn't ask her out. We talked a couple times after that as well, one of those times being another hour ish conversation. Seems she no longer has a boyfriend (based on social media, but who knows how accurate that is), and we are both still in the city after school has gotten out. Would it be weird to reply to an instagram story of hers? She mentioned to me that she was interested in doing bar trivia (obviously i wouldn't message her straight up with this, comment on the story first and build up to it? I'm fine if she doesn't want to date me, i'd be more than happy to be friends with her, I just want to try out bar trivia lol and she mentioned it (and is really cute), so I thought I'd ask her, but I'm not sure if it's weird to do it through instagram. Alternative is waiting until school starts up again and talking to her in person, unless i somehow run into her in the city. I don't have a crush on her, or pining or whatever either, obviously not gonna put all my eggs in one basket.
jimmypython
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since everybody is talking about how to commence the kissing, I have an interesting one that just happened 2 hours ago.
It was a great first date. I drove her home and before I could even make the move (I was going to):
her: "i'd kiss you but im too nervous"
me: "well, here it comes!"
we kissed
It was a great first date. I drove her home and before I could even make the move (I was going to):
her: "i'd kiss you but im too nervous"
me: "well, here it comes!"
we kissed
If she gave you her Instagram account, go ahead, send her a DM.
Jzero
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Fucking hell why can't I meet women this forward 😢
Messofanego
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I think Count Dookkake's opinion on the Human Centipede movies being subversive modern masterpieces is more worrying.
Nice, mature post.
artsi
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I was just coming here to talk about Instagram and of course there's already talk about Instagram, awesome.
There's this damn cute local girl that started following me and is liking all my photos with me in it, so I'm considering about sliding into her DM's and ask what's what.
The rich girl (I need a better callsign for her lol) is still my priority, I really like her, but man needs to have some backup plans.
There's this damn cute local girl that started following me and is liking all my photos with me in it, so I'm considering about sliding into her DM's and ask what's what.
The rich girl (I need a better callsign for her lol) is still my priority, I really like her, but man needs to have some backup plans.
LookAtMeGo
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The grass is always greener on the other side. At some point you have to buckle down or die alone.
Picking up randos at the bar and having the freedom of being able to date whoever you want seems to get less and less fun by the year. I am just happy my dick hasnt fallen off yet. It was a fun ride in my 20s and it has been fun in my 30s so far but god damn its nice to come home to somebody.
I think for me I like being in relationships so much because it gives me purpose. Being single my only purpose is to get laid and have fun. And thats nice and all but the grass man. Its greener over on the other side right now.
Picking up randos at the bar and having the freedom of being able to date whoever you want seems to get less and less fun by the year. I am just happy my dick hasnt fallen off yet. It was a fun ride in my 20s and it has been fun in my 30s so far but god damn its nice to come home to somebody.
I think for me I like being in relationships so much because it gives me purpose. Being single my only purpose is to get laid and have fun. And thats nice and all but the grass man. Its greener over on the other side right now.
artsi
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Yeah man. We broke up 9 months ago with a girlfriend of 4 years, before that I had another girlfriend for almost 6 years. I lived together with both of them.
I've been meeting and having sex with dozens of girls these last 9 months and it's been fun, but I'm not the happiest person like this.
Not sad, but from prior experience I know that I'm more satisfied in a good relationship.
I'm also pushing 30 in a couple years and I'd like to start a family soon. I'd like to see my grandkids and spend time with them while I'm still active and healthy.
Sounds silly to plan so much ahead, but it's what I dream of.
LookAtMeGo
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Dont sound silly to me man. Its nice to have dreams. Having a loving family is an honorable one IMO.
And yeah, I wont get into how many women I have slept with but its getting pretty old at this point. Still fun as hell and I love variety but I am just getting tired of the hunt.
I'm not going to rush into anything but ultimately I want to settle down before too long.
Prime crotch
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Is Instagram like (I don't know Baseball euphemisms that well) social first base?
Most of the younger girls I've met so far are very keen on texting on instagram instead of whatsapp or viber
Most of the younger girls I've met so far are very keen on texting on instagram instead of whatsapp or viber
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