PhantomHound
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You guys know that tipping isn't mandatory right?
. I don't get the arbitrary line between "just making coffee" and "just delivering pizza". They're both just two jobs. Why does one deserve to get more money from you in gratuity, but not the other?
To clarify, I'm Norwegian. We don't tip our pizza delivery men or cab drivers. I have tipped cab drivers, and I get gratuity deals with service, so it feels arbitrary that someone that services you for the 30 second interaction with your pizza in their hands is more worthy of a tip, which I see as a "I feel you deserve something extra for your service", than someone making you coffee for 30 seconds. Feels equally much as a service profession. I'm trying to understand what feel very arbitrary to me.
You can only feel shame if you allow yourself to feel shame. I've opted out of tips because of bad service before. I'm not going to feel bad for it because a stranger thinks I should. If you go to a place and get worse service because the staff is shitty and you don't tip because of it, then you should just stop going to that establishment. If they have bad service I don't know why you'd want to go back in the first place. And if everyone just stopped going to places with bad service instead of being chickenshits about it and tipping when the terrible staff doesn't deserve it, then these shitty restaurants would get weeded out naturally.People are shamed if do not tip. Even happens in GAF threads! It's not hard to believe people don't want to be shamed because they didn't give the waitress $2. There are lots of stories how people are given worse service because they don't tip, or heck ignored at bars because they don't believe the $1 rule. It's silliness all around.
It's decent because people expect you to be decent and if you're not then you may face ridicule.
Do I need to tip a place if someone isn't bringing me my food/doesn't have waiters? I feel like so many places that serve food all have a line for tips on the receipt now, barring fast food joints.
In the US, delivery people use their own vehicle, not a company motorcycle or car.
Their gas, their maintenance, their insurance, their depreciation.
So in the US youre not tipping for the interaction, youre tipping for those costs.
And yes, its BS that the law doesnt require the company to cover them.
Meanwhile, the UPS or mailman are using a company vehicle.
The whole point of UPS is to deliver you packages. They don't deserve a tip just because they do what their company is based around doing and nothing more. A tip is there for added service, and a UPS guy delivering your package gives you no extra services from their company. The whole point of a pizza place is to make pizza.So do you tip your UPS guy?
I gave my UPS guy a tip he will never forget and that's don't throw a $3000 tv onto someones porch unless you want to be jobless.I have no idea. Honestly.
Nope.
That's the point. The post I quoted said it was "just pouring coffee", but it seems equally mundane to deliver a pizza. I don't get the arbitrary line between "just making coffee" and "just delivering pizza". They're both just two jobs. Why does one deserve to get more money from you in gratuity, but not the other?
To clarify, I'm Norwegian. We don't tip our pizza delivery men or cab drivers. I have tipped cab drivers, and I get gratuity deals with service, so it feels arbitrary that someone that services you for the 30 second interaction with your pizza in their hands is more worthy of a tip, which I see as a "I feel you deserve something extra for your service", than someone making you coffee for 30 seconds. Feels equally much as a service profession. I'm trying to understand what feel very arbitrary to me.
So do you tip your UPS guy?
How can I be expected to cover that, not knowing those costs or even that fact? Well, that's upsetting to learn. It's very upsetting that things are like this, though. I thought tip was for the service, not implied covering some poor guy's cost.
There are records of George Washington and Thomas Jefferson giving tips to their slaves,
So if you order a coffee and sit there for hours you won't tip?
Edit: I only tip If I plan on staying at the establishment for a couple hours
To be fair, making espresso drinks/pour overs isn't the same as pouring out a cup of drip coffee, but I do perceive the turning around of the iPad as an aggressive act.
Why is delivering a pizza deserving a tip, but not making you coffee?
I seriously didn't know tipping at coffee shops was a thing until I downloaded the Starbucks app. Seems weird, but more power to people who do it. I certainly can't afford to do that every day.I have never tipped at a coffee shop and I never will, even though the Starbucks app now bugs you about it. Trying to guilt you into tipping. Even after you have left the store, there is a notification on your phone for at least 60 minutes to let you know you can tip -- even after you are long gone!
To be fair, making espresso drinks/pour overs isn't the same as pouring out a cup of drip coffee, but I do perceive the turning around of the iPad as an aggressive act.
Time to tip at the supermarket as well
As a European who visited NY for the first time last year I got used to tipping pretty quickly. Most of the personnel I encountered put in more of an effort because they know it improves their chances of getting a (higher) tip. That said, 75% is ridiculous.
I remember explicitly being told I was not allowed to accept tips when I was a bag boy. Bad times...When I was in high school in the 90's I was a bagboy at a grocery store where we would take each customer's cart out and put the bags in their car. I got a few tips offered for that but never accepted them.
I don't think any grocery stores do this anymore do they? This was like a defacto thing all my life growing up even at the huge grocery chains like Kroger but I don't think I've been to a store that does this in the last 15 years.
I like your sentiment, and I agree.
There are TONS of places using those iPad registers now and every single one I've seen, sans retail stores, try to get you to tip. Doesn't matter what they are serving.
There is no fucking way I'm ever tipping someone who just pours me a coffee or a beer.
You should only tip whenever you want to tip. Never let yourself be pressured into tipping.
As if going out to bars and clubs to buy overpriced alcohol is such a critical part of our lives.good luck with that and not being treated like shit by every bartender in the area once they know youre a stingy drinker. That next time you go for a drink, be prepared to wait a longggggggggggggggggggggggggg ass time.
It's just as bad when people tip $1 at a bar when the bartender spends 3 seconds pouring a beer.
When I was in high school in the 90's I was a bagboy at a grocery store where we would take each customer's cart out and put the bags in their car. I got a few tips offered for that but never accepted them.
I don't think any grocery stores do this anymore do they? This was like a defacto thing all my life growing up even at the huge grocery chains like Kroger but I don't think I've been to a store that does this in the last 15 years.
I would have said "No extra free pastries?"I don't want to make this into a tipping horror story thread... but i've been guilted into tipping at stores before.
There is this cafe I really like, independent joint, and the lady at the register one time said to me "no tip?" and I didn't really know what to say, i just kind of looked at her blankly for a brief moment, then she said "maybe next time."
Maybe not!
I mean damn, all I had was a pastry.
As an american i just really wish we could do away with it. removes a lot of awkwardness from my already awkward life
As if going out to bars and clubs to buy overpriced alcohol is such a critical part of our lives.
good luck with that and not being treated like shit by every bartender in the area once they know youre a stingy drinker. That next time you go for a drink, be prepared to wait a longggggggggggggggggggggggggg ass time.
Are you saying if going out to bars and clubs and overpaying for alcohol isn't a critical part of your life, then you don't like dates or going out with friends?It's not if you don't enjoy going out at night with friends, maybe going on dates, or just having a drink to yourself and small talking with bar folks.
I mean, who likes dating and going out with friends?
Why is delivering a pizza deserving a tip, but not making you coffee?